Hello future sub – this might be a bit long, but you're worth the effort.

I'm a passionate, patient Dom seeking a local sub for a long-term, genuine connection in and out of the bedroom. I’m looking for someone who shares my vigor for life, is ready to commit to something meaningful, and is eager to grow together. Ideally, you’re emotionally intelligent, unafraid of challenges, and ready for a happy, stable, and very kinky relationship.

Who I Am

Physically: White, 6’2, 190 lbs, healthy, handsome and STD-free with recent proof. I have a bit of an alternative/goth style with brown hair, brown eyes, a well-groomed beard and tasteful tattoos. I take pride in how I present myself and clean up well.

Personality: Fun, playful, laid back and appreciative of the amazing people in my life. I keep a small circle of close friends, but take pride in building positive connections with everyone I interact with. I have a good sense of humor, have no problem letting my goofier side show and love exploring new ideas and perspectives. I do my best to live life with an open mind.

Interests: I love live music, festivals, traveling, cooking, reading, meditating and daily walks. I enjoy good coffee, trips to Joshua Tree, Halloween, farmers markets and fashion. I’m a total foodie, love all kinds of music including dance music, hip hop and rock, and I try to hit a few Lakers games every year. I enjoy both late nights out and cozy nights in. I’m also a Costco card holder.

Career: I’m goal-oriented and get off to learning new things. I have owned my own business for 7 years and held successful positions in the music industry and professional kitchens in the past. I’m also big on work/life balance and try not to let work stress carry into my day to day life often (still working on that).

Daily Life: I wake up early, have a nicely decorated bungalow apartment a few blocks from the beach and am a dog dad to a cute dog. I work from home and value the flexibility it gives me. I stay organized, dedicate evenings to creativity or friends, and always make time for those I care about. I’m 420 and alcohol friendly (in moderation) and lean towards partners who have similar tastes in having fun.

Who You Are

I want us to grow together. I value a passionate, ambitious woman who’s always striving to better herself. Personal growth is key to the D/s dynamic for me. You’ll always be my girl first and sub second, with mutual trust and communication as our foundation. I want to be the guide that leads you passed your perceived limits and helps you explore your wildest fantasies. I’m the kind of Dom who will spank your ass, worship your body and then cook you dinner.

My ideal partner is open-minded, focused on health, and unafraid of challenges. She’s independent, curious, and fun, with a passion for life and her career. The kink is just the cherry on top of a trusting, emotional connection.

My dealbreakers are if you’re not single, not taking care of yourself, are flakey, or have a bad attitude. I enjoy taming brats but value day to day life dynamics over kinky ones. We also likely won’t align if you’re very religious or conservative.

Physically, I’m looking for someone over 25 who dresses well, takes pride in her health and appearance, and has a strong sense of personal identity. Bonus if you’re into tattoos, but it’s definitely not required.

Kinks I’m interested in creating a safe space for us to connect and explore, with a focus on communication, accountability, and aftercare. I do not want to rush right into the kink dynamic and prefer first that a genuine connection and bond has formed. I’ve explored the D/s lifestyle for over a decade, learning from my experiences and continually seeking to grow as a leader.

Our Dynamic: I want to be your rock, providing support without ever making you feel trapped. I want you to feel like a well-disciplined princess. My power comes in the form of personal expression and growth, not unfettered control. I value dreaming up creative tasks and goals, but most of all, I want us to feel happy and secure together as we explore.

My love languages are physical touch and quality time. I want to talk, cuddle, travel and share experiences, enjoying life both in and out of the bedroom. I’m not seeking a 24/7 dynamic but prefer a balanced, traditional relationship outside of our kinks. I don’t mind having fun with the dynamic in everyday life, but I do value traditional relationship ideals as well. I don’t expect you to be a pushover in the relationship or submit to my every demand. I value an independent woman and well rounded life.

Kinks: Impact play, spanking, orgasm control, body worship, role-play, bondage, pet play, sensation play, praise, creative punishments, group play and feet just to name a few. I’m also open to switching roles once in a while when the mood fits. It would also be fun to explore Shibari together although I am pretty new to it.

Hard Limits: Blood, scat, public humiliation, extreme pain, age play, baby/diaper play, anything illegal and anything involving finances.

This got longer than I anticipated, but I’m hopeful the right person is out there and will appreciate the effort.

If interested, DM me with your basic stats and something new that has interested you lately (could be a hobby, book, tv show, game, etc). We can exchange photos if there is a vibe and take it from there.

Sincerely,The one you’ve been looking for.