Overview:

I (34M) am a high-protocol Dominant with around ~13 years of experience in kink, looking for a serious, long-term, Domme/switch-submissive. I am a polygamous ‘harem-keeper’, with a mostly-vanilla, cuckquean nesting-partner (F27), and a long-distance lg-submissive (F21). My nesting-partner (NP) and I have been looking to bring on a LTR third for a while, and she’s been missing me having a fun roster to choose from—so, I’m looking to kill two birds with one stone, and looking for a “Head Concubine”.

The Ottoman Sultans had a position of “hazinedar usta”, or ‘housemistress of the harem’, who organized and supervised the Sultan’s concubines. She was both a guiding force and authority to the harem, as well as an advisor and slave to the Sultan. If this admixture speaks to you—to be both powerful and submissive, both dominant and subordinate, and absolutely indispensable at all times—then you are the right person for this role.

Details of the arrangement:

• High Protocol play, involving etiquette and manners training. Use of titles, formal hierarchy rituals, all to be spelled out explicitly with an agreed-on contract. As well as time, behavior, & wardrobe control. Flexible in the specific direction, and open to negotiations pre-agreement.

• Domme / submissive switching. I lean heavily Dominant (both personality wise and in kink), but I do indulge being a “pleasure bottom”—and, more importantly, I am looking for someone who enjoys being socially and sexually dominant with other women and submissive with men. Delegation should not be necessary: you should thrive on bringing other girls to heel. Service Tops are highly encouraged to reach out.

• 24/7 / lifestyle play—I am looking for someone who wants to indulge in something transformative and intensive, but I am very comfortable establishing “reality check” limits. We all have to pay bills and face our families at Thanksgiving, after all.

• Headmistress role—open to interpretation and collaboration on specifics, but in general I am interested in a pro-social, femme-dominant partner to ‘manage’ my harem. This includes independent play with subs/NP, being ‘second in command’ for D/s play, someone who serves as chief-CuckCake, and takes initiative in actively recruiting new submissives.

• Safe, Sane, and Consensual play! Open to non-con/reluctance scenes, with heavy safety negotiations beforehand.

• Face pic, gym pic.

Other than that, I am open to a variety of kinks or fetishes you would otherwise like to explore or indulge in. I have the most experience with other forms of High Protocol roleplay (e.g. DDlg, pet play, Master/slave), humiliation/degradation play (name-calling, demeaning punishments, public), light sadism (flogging, predicament punishments, spanking, orgasm denial/control), and transformation play (bimbofication, weight control/reduction, hucow). I am completely open to tailoring an agreement towards your specific needs, if you meet my requirements—feel encouraged to let me know!

(Non-kink) About Me:

• Extremely over-educated and yappy. I get described as “hot professor” a lot. I’ve never teached a day in my life, it’s just my vibe I guess!

• Fit with a bit of a gut. The gym is my main hobby and I like to eat well—total bonus points if you’re also a fitness/bodybuilding nut, or would like to learn!

• Fairly nerdy homebody. I’m a bit passed my “crazy drunk adventures” stage of life, but I can’t turn down a good time. More likely to talk about Star Wars than football.

• I’ve written a couple of books, and I work a non-patient-facing job in healthcare. I’m a military vet, and I studied philosophy and literature in university.

Geographic Details:

I am currently located on the West Coast, but I am moving back to NYC next year. I am open to you being anywhere if you are willing to relocate / travel, as I am looking for in-person play.

Shoot me a DM if interested, and we can take it from there.

Looking forward to hearing from you, soon.