About Me

BDSM, above all, is about transparency and communication. The connection needs to be mental first; therefore, I will first describe the person I am (and aim to be) and hopefully give you enough elements to decide whether you want to meet the Dom.

I am 30, a lawyer, and currently based in Mexico (although working towards moving to Europe in the near future). While my specialty is corporate and financial law, my passion is the much more relevant (although less profitable) field of humanitarian aid and international cooperation.

As far as personality goes, I am shy, but confident. I am an introvert at heart, but also someone deeply fascinated with the human experience, I value people for who they are and what they think, and therefore believe in treating human beings with decency and respect until I am given a reason not to. I consider myself cultured and appreciate reading in several subjects (art history, political theory, science fiction, niche policy fields, etc.). I am also fairly active, and while decently short, I love bouldering and physical activities like hiking and biking. I am a fairly decent cook, I have mastered the art of crows of showing affection by gifting small trinkets and small details to remind you I think of you, and, while sometimes serious, I actually take pride in allowing myself a bit of goofyness (laughing at oneself is important).

I've lived in 4 different countries (Mexico, Belgium, Netherlands and Spain), and have traveled a bit. I am currently working on learning French and also want to learn German in the future. I think intellectual curiosity is incredibly sexy, and adore a woman who can make me want to learn more and be smarter, or at least more curious. I am a nerd in the end, and appreciate a fascination for the wonders of the universe (please, don't be shy if your passions are niche, I love people with deep passions).

While not specially relevant at first, I am very left-leaning, and while I don't believe in political disagreements being absolutely insurmountable, there are a few positions I cannot respect (LGBTQ phobia, biggotry in general, etc.) Please, if you value anyone for their identity and not for their individual values, refrain from contacting me.

Finally, as we are in the end being of attraction, I will say I have black hair (starting to go gray), brown eyes, a nice ass and, as stated, go towards the shorter end. I have been told I give vibes of someone taller though.

The Dom

I got into BDSM fairly young, which has allowed me to develop my tastes over a long time.

I identify 100% as a Dom, have tried the submissive side, but realized it is not really my thing. I consider myself caring and thoughtful, but also disciplined and demaning. To me, the real Domination is mental over physical -the body follows the brain, and therefore a seductive mind can be a powerful tool.

I crave for mental, ethical and spiritual connection, and believe BDSM thrives in sincerity and openness; therefore, I aim to be transparent in my kinks and limits, and hope to create a safe environment for my sub to be able to express theirs freely.

I am deeply into humiliation and denigration, subtle acts of dominance, TPE, CNC, public play, mental domination, wax and candle play, bondage, light sadism, among others. Truth be told, my list of kinks and fantasies is LONG, so if you have one not here, there is a not insignificant chance I like it as well. In any instance, I consider aftercare immensly important, and always think of my sub's needs as the Number 1 priority -submission is, in the end, a voluntary gift, and I want to make my sub feel treasured and cared for, even in my harshest moments.

Finally, my limits are quite clear and reasonable: no minors, animals or unconsenting people. The rest can be discussed, but these are absolutely unbreakable (I've had minors contact or follow me before, please, please don't do that).

About You

The most important part of this is, obviously, you.

I am looking for someone in tne 22-40 year range, with some flexibility in both directions, provided you are of age. I don't demand you to know EXACTLY what you want nor to have experience, to me, a big part of the fun is the mutual discovery of likes and dislikes, the exploration of our inner universes and the way our specific chemistry operated and interacts.

I am a person who likes communication, so please lets try to be more or less frequent when talking. I know we are adults and life can be hectic at times -thats ok. Lets just not ghost each other.

As mentioned above, I love passionate people, and curious ones. I love nerds, goths and silly girls. I genuinely want to get to know you and your funny quirks, so being truth to yourself is very attractive to me.

Finally on this point, while I can do online at first, I appreciate physical presence, and hope to eventually transition to actually meeting; therefore, relocation needs to be viable if needed in the mid to long term (thankfully, my career makes this viable).

In the end, my perfect sub is not a being created specially for me, but more someone I vibe with and with whom I'm willing to work towards something. We are, in the end, humans, and I like to see us as such. I don't believe in perfection, I do believe in working towards it.

The Farewell

I know posts like mine are a dime a dozen in here. If it is too long, it is not a result of (intentional) arrogance, but of wanting to give YOU the elements needed to check if we'd be compatible.

If this rings with you at all, please do contact me. I promise I will love hearing from you.