I view relationships in this dynamic similarly to building a home. Relationships built on the basis of BDSM feel empty. The short-lived flings that dissolve as post-nut clarity takes hold of us is a perfect example. Some prefer those. I prefer the slow burn.

My belief is that the pillars in a dynamic are not all that different from those in a “vanilla” relationship. Trust, communication, and devotion are the foundation. These act as an axis that the elements of BDSM revolve around and leads us to a connection far deeper than flesh.

Me: I’m Chris. To cull some of you, I will communicate this early - I am married. My partner and I are ENM. She is always aware of my shenanigans and has 100% access to my conversations if she wants to know about them. I work in commercial banking and have been in the BDSM world for 11 years. Physically speaking, I’m 6’5” caucasian, HWP with a body that says “former college athlete” (with an emphasis on former) to go along with blue eyes, brown hair, and have a beard with a bit of a reddish tint. I enjoy music, movies, travel, and reading.

You: You are passionate, doting, and represent an intoxicating blend of dependence and resolve. You have range. You seek structure, guidance, and the cathartic bliss of having a partner who you can trust in your most vulnerable state. You are kind. You are bubbly and outspoken about the causes that matter to you. You are your own person; yet, you thrive in servitude. You are a free-spirited soul who craves control. You are powerful and strong; yet, the degradation and humiliation at the hands of your partner act as a tare bring you back to balance.

We can talk about kinks amongst ourselves. Limits are blood, vomit, and scat.

Please be able to share a SFW pic and verification early on and I am happy to as well. I prefer chats over messages.