Hello everyone, hope you are all having a good day and if not, reading this makes it at least the tiniest bit better. I decided to go back to the drawing board with posts and scrap everything I'd done before I am reusing my post as I really put a lot of effort into it and opened myself up a bit, I would love to find some people to discuss and I am open to being used as a sounding board too for people looking to get into the community but feeling a bit lost. I have posted this on another forum (no prizes for guessing which) so if the post seems familiar, it is me under a different pseudonym.

Short version :

Single , Male, 28, based in the UK (Midlands England) - not openly dating outside of this (i.e. open to poly if it fits needs), no past baggage (children, ex partners etc) - been in the community for over 9 years. Currently looking for someone to build with long term by connecting on a personal and kink level about shared passions and shared depravity.

Key Skills :

Conversationalist - i.e. can you talk about deeper things without getting bored and have a general interest in life rather than just a passenger in it?

Organised - I am not too concerned if you have a busy life or other family / life commitments provided you have the organisation skills to prioritise and connect

Emotional intelligence - basic I know, but lacking in so many people (see 'empathy')

Does that sound like you? - Excellent, reach out to me via Chat please but ideally if you can spare time, read the long version.

Long Version :

I've tried to take inspiration from other posts that have resonated with me here but I realise not everyone has lots of time to spare on reading - hopefully the right person does though.

Why now? : Well, firstly, why not? The real answer though is I have felt like part of me is missing for a while and that can only be explained as kink and bdsm community activities and commitment. I've got a great job where I am really settled and enjoy what I do, lots of social bits with friends and family and a clear set of personal goals for the next year or two. I know this may seem braggy but I'm happy I'm in such a good place and I can hopefully share the love and joy.

Experiences : I've been in the community for a while, I've had my mix of good and bad, I've been blackmailed - it sucks but it is what it is. I have found that generally the world has a lot of honest, kind souls in the community but that isn't to say everyone is. Reddit has got a varied mix as a polite way of phrasing it.

I'll discuss far more on that in chat if you reach out but in general, I've been a dom and a sub in the past to learn both roles and the psychology, I am open to most kinks but pee is a huge one.

The one bit I kept from past posts is this : mixture of relationship styles and engagements within kink - tried out being a sub, dom, switch, master etc. Male and female partners, tried a lot of kinks too even the ones I thought I'd dislike, some I did and the pain can be as unreal as expected, some I actually liked. The one big thing I should call out early on is pee is something I love in a partner, well, on a partner too - let's go with general watersports (and I don't mean canoeing).

About you : I am open to both virtual and in person dynamics so feel free to reach out. General appearance to me isn't important, I am much happier around someone who is comfy and confident in their own body and kinks than someone who looks the part but can't act the part.

I am open to generally anyone who can hold a conversation and be open to trying things and telling me they don't like things. If you are shy, that is cool too - I'd be happy to be patient with anyone - I just need to know who you are / how you work - plus I am neurodivergent (as the post probably gives away) so I tend to be more reserved initially but I can be sadistic once we know our lines.

I have evenings and weekends free but I work from home so I can chat throughout the day too which provides added flexibility and I will always share when I may be off for a day due to travel, office days etc. Any timezones generally work as I've previously chatted with people from West Coast US to India to Europe to Africa to Japan.

Beyond that, I think I've bored you enough by now. I have a generally good and dark sense of humour too I've been told but hopefully, I get the right reply and the human side comes through which is hard to show here.

Sorry for the length but to get the right reply, I figured I'd put the effort in.

Thanks,

B (full name in chat but take a guess and see if you get it)