BDSM has been a core part of my identity and life for more than two decades. This has included everything from power exchange relationships to play to volunteering to teaching to conventions to crafting toys/furniture. I'm looking for someone with similar passions - where kink isn't just something fun you do in the bedroom or on a Friday night. It is something you live all day, every day.

Some potential deal breakers so I don't waste anyone's time:

• I'm not looking for something strictly online - but I'm happy to get to know each other here first for safety reasons.
• My children are adults and have moved out. I have a vasectomy and don't want any more children. My lifestyle requires a child free house. (But breeding kinks are hot as long as there is no actual pregnancy risk).
• I have been ethically non-monogamous for almost a decade. Our relationship can take any form you like - mono/poly, cuckquean, beta, etc. My long-term relationship goals involve having a couple s-type partners in a live in situation - so please don't contact me if you need a fully monogamous relationship.

About Me

• Stable career in a management position (I like to lead at work, at home and in the bedroom)
• Extroverted introvert - I love going out to socialize but need my recharge time at home afterwards
• Enjoy traditional gender roles in my personal relationships (but enthusiastically supportive of all genders, roles and lifestyles as long as you find what makes you personally happy)
• I love reading and have a small home library that consists primarily of fantasy, sci-fi, horror, graphic novels and manga. Brandon Sanderson, Jim Butcher, John Scalzi and Martha Wells are a few of my favorite authors.
• I enjoy staying in shape with hiking, workouts and swimming - but the sun and I are not the best of friends, so you aren't going to find me relaxing on a beach anywhere. Expect shaded trails, indoor swimming pools and the gym with some occasional travel to places of interest
• Hosting is important to me and I enjoy inviting friends over for small gatherings. Themes can be anything from high protocol dinners to board game days to movie nights.
• I enjoy conventions and will be at DragonCon in just under a month! I've also attended Frolicon and Gencon. Looking to branch out into other conventions over the next couple of years - I really want to check out PAX, Kinky Kollege and SELF.
• Food is love - anyone who visits is well fed with big meal. I love to cook and am always learning new recipes and cooking techniques. I also go out of my way to try new restaurants and local cuisines any time I can.
• Crafting and working with leather or wood are some of my favorite creative outlets. I've made everything from kink toys to furniture.
• Fair warning - my humor tends towards the dark and sarcastic and occasionally dips into the morbid
• Video games, reading, tabletop games with sci-fi, fantasy or horror themes are my go-to for relaxation and enjoyment. I'm not huge on TV, but you'll occasionally find me binging a show, anime or watching a movie.

Kinky Me

• Strict but affectionate Master/Dom that enjoys 24/7 TPE, high protocol and having BDSM embedded in every facet of my life
• Inventive and cruel sadist who enjoys physical, emotional and mental pain
• Caring owner who wants my partner to be happy and satisfied with life overall
• Over 20 years of experience in BDSM almost entirely in person. I can verify, vet and provide references.
• I practice Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK). I'm open to negotiating any kinks if you understand the risks and consent. If you don't know the risks, I will take the time to educate so you can make informed decisions.
• Member and volunteer in the local community and at the local dungeon. Giving back and helping others find their BDSM safe space is incredibly important to me, so I help with everything from cleaning to volunteering for events to teaching classes
• I enjoy attending classes and kink conventions because there is always something new to learn and experience. Plus I love socializing with other people in the lifestyle
• Very extensive toy collection that has been curated over decades including my own personal home playspace complete with suspension points and bondage furniture. You can see some pictures of my collection on my profile.
• My kink and fetish list - let's just summarize this as "yes" if it involves me being in control and/or being a sadist - I am almost definitely into it. Your darkest fetishes are also on my "yes" list as long as I'm not getting arrested and everyone involved is a consenting adult. Yes, all your darkest fantasies.
• Regular and recent STI tests
• I follow a formal process for taking on a partner. We can date, have sex and do all kinds of kinky things at any time. But contrary to online tradition, I don't throw collars at people on day 3 of our conversation.
  • Initially I like to chat online and in person to check chemistry and get to know each other. We can work in dates, sex and play as comfort and trust builds.
  • If we both want to explore a power exchange, I will put you "under consideration" with a time limited contract and a token collar/bracelet denoting my claim. This would be akin to serious dating in a non-kink relationship.
  • If things work out well, I will put you "in training" with a one-year contract where you will live with me in a 1950/BDSM lifestyle full time. This would be akin to an engagement in a non-kink relationship.
  • At the end of the year, if you still want to be mine, I will collar you and sign a long term or permanent contract. This would be akin to marriage in a non-kink relationship.

About You

• A submissive woman seeking to live a 24/7 BDSM lifestyle
• Brand new or seasoned veteran - any experience and knowledge level is okay as long as you want this to be reality - not just online fantasy
• You enjoy structure and focusing on your partner in all ways while allowing them to shoulder most of the external burdens outside of the home
• A life learner who wants to delve into building skills in all areas from communication to cooking to makeup to sexual pleasure to kink
• Willing to meet in person within a reasonable amount of time in a neutral location once trust has been established. You aren't looking for a pen pal
• You find community important and want to learn from others and share your experiences while helping others on their journey. Being open with this kind of lifestyle can be daunting and scary, but you will lean on me for support while building connections and helping others
• Ideally some form of masochist, though you don't have to "enjoy" pain. For example, enduring pain as a service or enjoying mental/emotional suffering are acceptable alternatives
• Your BDSM interests trend into some dark areas - or you want me to lead you into my dark fetishes and kinks. Danger, fear and loss of control excite you
• You find it important to share non-kink interests and already have similar interests or are willing to become involved in my interests as an act of service and training
• This is your passion! You won't be satisfied in life without it and are looking for your person to share this journey with.

If this sounds like your type of thing, I hope to hear from you soon. Regardless of your goals, or whether we are a good match or not, I wish you well in your search and hope you find your person soon.

Damon