Hello there,

Preface
I never thought i would come to Reddit for this but dating apps are as about as appealing as a cock flavoured lolly-pop and I thought, y'know, why the hell not throw something out and see if it sticks... Though in hindsight that analogy for uselessness probably doesn't work as well here... But, you aren't here for a philosophy discussion so here we go. I thought long and hard about what to write here, and decided - as the title of this add suggests, to just be honest with you.

Who am I?

So about me. Well what can i say? I'm 31 and a professional person - a teacher of computer science to be exact. I love to laugh and have an intensely dry wit. I'm also (dare i say myself) an intelligent person who appreciates the company of the likewise witty, interesting and alternative - After all the best people are those who are just weird enough to be interesting. I am also a huge nerd. ask me about my DnD world i've been lovingly crafting for the past 5 years and I could talk for hours about it. I also love various fandoms' such as LOTR, Star Wars and Warhammer. I am also a creative person as the previous alludes to and enjoy writing and have written short stories, (including some naughtier ones) which is a side hobby of mine. in addition to these i'm a gamer with a love for strategy and strategic thinking games - most notably Age of Empires and Total war are my bread and butter. I am a social creature as well. I love going out with friends and meeting people and as you can see from the above i am a sarcastic person and a champion of mixed metaphors (as you'll see below i'm sure), but also a caring, passionate and loving one.

My looks

As for what i look like - Im 6'6 in height, broad shoulders with close cropped hair and i go through various stages regarding my facial hair depending on my mood. I could be clean shaven, have stubble or be feeling like a growing my beard out - it tends to fluctuate. I have dark brown eyes which I was once told are "enchanting" and yes, i'm still riding that high to this day. I am also working on getting myself into shape - being a teacher isn't the most active of professions but i have actually over the last 8 months grown to love taking walks, going swimming and - while i certainly count myself as a work in progress am bettering myself. after all. how can someone guide you if they themselves are not able to change, grow and practice what they preach.

And now for the kinky bit

I am a dominant. I have been for the last 13 years I would describe myself as a strict but fair dominant. I enjoy some brattiness, though wont suffer disrespect. Its that spark. that brattiness gives personality to a dynamic, and i want to be kept on my toes as a dominant, even though you will be punished for it - Masochists are always fun for this.

What i want is to find someone for a total power exchange style Long term relationship. I want someone I can mold, mind and body. However, this is not something I will jump into head first. There is nothing more intimate than a BDSM D/S dynamic. Nothing requires as much trust, communication, honesty or safeguarding, and that's important to note. I want a genuine connection, to get to know my potential submissive as a person and to develop a healthy and rewarding dynamic and relationship we can both grow into.

I don't want someone who is going to run off after a couple of days. I want someone who wants to be invested in. and equally who wants to invest in me. Too often do some subs assume they do nothing in the relationship, they obey and the dominant has all the responsibility. This shouldn't be the case. it is a relationship. there is a give and take and you must be willing to put yourself into this as much as I am. You must be ready to have your hand taken and guided through the dark to allow me to be your light.

I am happy to start online but ideally I would want to move to IRL and would relocate for the ideal dynamic for me. I should mention at this point I am primarily interested in cis females though i would consider *right* submissive of a different gender in terms of trans-mascs, trans-femmes or femme-boys. what i look for most in you as a submissive is your attitudes towards a BDSM dynamic and the chemistry between us. Experience doesn't matter - in fact inexperience can be fun. to see your first dip into the depths of BDSM, carefully guided by me is a very rewarding thing. Just as if you are a seasoned pro, I am happy to join you on your continued journey into the depths of this alternative lifestyle.

Below is are my favourite kinks - by no means an exhaustive list:

• Bondage (the tighter the better - you'll need to enjoy being a rope bunny! I have had a decent amount of experience as a rigger too)
• Sensory Deprivation
• Tease and Denial
• Orgasm control
• Chastity
• Impact play
• Humiliation
• CNC (only when very comfortable with each other)
• Domestic Service
• Protocols
• Hypnosis

If you made it this far i thank you for your attention and consideration. if I interest you, please drop me a message! show me your personality and lets see how we get on.

Thank you for reading,
Chris.