Navigating the kink scene feels like ordering dinner at a pan-asian restaurant: a 15 page menu with endless things I would probably like, a few that I wouldn't, and a bunch with weird sounding names that I've never heard of. These kink quizzes are longer than job applications, and there's no way to trust that your definition/degree of "sadism" matches mine. Why do we even bother?

So, let me be the change I want to see in the world.

Let's skip the part where we trade labels and privately speculate how an evening might play out. Instead, I'm going to tell you right now. Consider this the "set menu" for your dinner. I've done the work of designing (and testing) a fun, sexy, and pretty intense bondage-based scene. Your only job is to either say "yes" or "no." If you say "no," think how much time we both just saved! And if you say "yes," be warned that—much like any real up-scale restaurant—I don't care about your dietary restrictions 😉

The Scene (expected time: 2.5-3 hours)

[25 min] Preparation:

• Warmup: We'll spend ~15 minutes getting changed into comfy clothes, hydrating, and stretching. Note: we should each be doing this every morning!
• Briefing: We'll take 10 minutes to discuss boundaries and injuries, agree on safe words, and discuss some of the "optional" activities below. I'll also review the safety measures I'll be taking.

[25 min] Tie #1 (warmup): TK harness (with arms bound)

• This is one of the most basic ties. It will be a chance for us to build more trust, practice our communication, and for you to make sure I actually know what I'm doing. If I can't make a tight-but-comfortable TK, you shouldn't go any further!
• Once tied, we can indulge in any any number of optional (and previously agreed upon) activities: groping, teasing, throwing you around, nipple clamps, blindfold, etc.
• After this, we'll untie and have a check-in to make sure you're feeling safe and excited. It's ok to stop here if anything feels off for either of us.

[40 min] Tie #2 (medium, full body): Arm Leg futomomos

• This will be the most artistic tie, and will have a number of stages where we can have some fun or take some photos. We'll start with leg futomomos, then same for the arms. Now I can tie you in a few configurations: knees-to-elbows, starfish, and even a semi-hogtie.
• This is a great bondage: you still feel relatively free since you can move your hips and shoulders. But without your knees or elbows, you're unlikely to get very far!
• We can add in some more optional fun here too: spanking, gag, sex, oral, tickling, predicament, hair pulling, etc. This is a great position for edging...
• Once I untie you from this one, we'll take a stretching and toilet break, and rehydrate.

[55 min] Tie #3 (intense, full body)

• This the part where the waitress asks you "how spicy" from 1-5, and you think back to when the 2 made you cry... and then ordered a 5
• At its base, this will be a frog-style hogtie. To make it more intense, I might:
  • Add a hair tie
  • Cinch your elbows together
  • Put dried rice under your tits/stomach/thighs
  • Partially suspend your legs to put more weight on your tits
  • Switch from edging to forcing multiple orgasms
  • Face fucking (with a ring gag?)
• This will also be your biggest test of endurance. Trust me, the glistening sweat will make the photos even hotter!
• We can make a wager on whether or not you can escape this one, and winner gets a special prize ;)

[30 min] Aftercare & Debrief

• First, cuddles. For as long as necessary.
• Then, we'll probably both need a towel, toilet, and big glass of water.
• Stretch and massage
• Debrief on what worked well, what was ok, and what was bad. It's good learnings for us both!

Ok, now that you know what you're getting, I'll give you a quick description of who.

The Rigger (aka me)

I'm going to start you with the boring stuff first, because a) vanilla chemistry is a pre-requisite for kinky chemistry and b) you perverts will never read this if I've already told you all the dirty stuff 😅 I'm a 32/m American based in London, live on my own, and am well-educated/career-focused. But I would like to think that none of that matters nearly as much as my being kind, outgoing, endlessly curious, healthy, and (dare I say) pretty normal? I'm in good shape, average height, thick head of hair, half-asian, and eyelashes that will probably make you jealous. Sorry!

Hopefully you've pieced together most of my kinks at this point, but I'll add a bit more color to what draws me to shibari. At the same time, it takes endless creativity, technical design execution, immense trust from you, and...it just looks f*cking hot. I've tied quite a bit (with partners, hookups, at workshops, etc.), and endlessly enjoy helping people have that release. If I'm being honest, I don't even need the sex for it to be fun.

The Bunny (aka you)

I won't put much here since, although picky, I tend to be selective on a case-by-case basis rather than in broad strokes. Mostly what I look for his energy: curious, fun, optimistic, secure. I've learned not to scope the bar hottest girl; it's the one who's laughing the most that I really want to meet. That said, a few requirements: local-ish, hwp, recent std test, a great smile.

SoOoOoO now what? I know I said it was just a yes/no question, but you do need to give me a bit more than that. Let's trade sfw photos early to not waste time. And if all that clicks, let's grab a pint and see what happens 🙂

That's all from me, stay safe and have fun out there kids!