I admit, I think about that quote far too often. Nonetheless, vulnerability is at the center of what this dynamic should be. One cannot submit without first being vulnerable. To share your weaknesses, to share your dreams, goals, insecurities, fears, darkest thoughts with a partner, and know that he will be there no matter, not judging for anything that you have shared. Vulnerability is not easy. Nothing worth doing is easy. But it's crucial as a stepping stone to submission.

The second half of the quote is just as important as the first half. When you show vulnerability, is not a weakness. You show strengths by being vulnerable, by submitting. I don't want a doormat, but I want someone who submits with her head held high. Submission is a gift that you do not give to just anyone. You have a hard time finding a Dom worth respecting, I suspect. Most Doms don't get the subtleties of control and dominance. They focus too much on dominating your mind and do not focus enough on your mind and emotions.

I am a 32 year old man, living in Europe, where I work an administrative position. I have been involved with D/s for near a decade now, with several long term relationships on and offline, with a wide variety of dynamics, from strict TPE to more paternal DD/lg, and everything in-between. I have an active social life, mostly spent with a great smaller group of friends. The rest of my free time is spent in nature or in front of a computer. I love to go on walks, love to hike and enjoy board and video games, as well as trivia nights. I would love to find someone who shares more than just her kinky side with me, who has similar interests and hobbies. Speaking of interests, I am interested in many topics, movies, books, TV, politics, psychology, philosophy and more. I am also over 6'6 tall, which is usually the first thing people notice about me.

When it comes to D/s relationships, I am strict, firm, creative and open-minded. No kink you have will shock me and I will be eager to make your fantasies become a reality. I focus a lot on dominance outside the bedroom, enjoying control in every aspect of life, beyond just sexually. Personality-wise, I am organized, driven, focused and calm. I plan things to the smallest detail and you will often find me making lists to improve my efficiency. I have found that this side of me works especially well in D/s relationships as well, where I can help improve your life and productivity, motivating you to be better than you have been on your own.I am looking for someone to spend my day with, to talk to and get to know, to explore our minds together. Someone with a personality, who is able to hold a conversation, knows how to ask the right kinds of questions and who feels like something is missing in their lives. Maybe it is a sense of direction or maybe it is missing someone to whisper filthy things in your ear. I am open to both long distance and local. I enjoy taking my time and getting to know someone well.

Will you allow yourself to be vulnerable? I am waiting.