Hello!

Physical

• 5'5" Latinx, dark brown hair, brown eyes, glasses. Usually wearing black because it minimizes decision fatigue. Combining that with my septum piercing gives me an alt look. I've been told I'm cute, pretty, and juicy (but ehh, I didn’t like that last one).

I'm not nervous about my face or my voice, I'm nervous about men reaching out whose type is the complete opposite. If you have an unrelenting weakness for blondes or whatever... that's super, go find one. At least disclose please.

*Really* Looking for:
I know what I'm looking for. We can start with my ideal and work our way from there to reality. I want to trust someone so much that I can melt into them safely. To feel like I belong to someone who I respect, look up to, want to protect in return. I want to fall asleep and wake up thinking about this person. Stream whatever for each other, send them random (wholesome) things that excite me throughout the day, be proud and supportive of them for their accomplishments and growth. Hear about the best parts of their day. Make plans to meet up, even if those plans never come to fruition.

I’m a possessive person and I’m working on that. And I know it might be a fantasy, but someone who doesn't watch porn while "in a relationship" would be a dream. Mostly because I want to take care of those needs; I’m kind of greedy about it. I want to mold to one person perfectly. I want to be able to tell how they’re feeling just from the way their breath catches.
There is no expectation that this dynamic will last forever. Just as long as we’re both happy & continue to find fulfillment with each other.

Realistically, I'd be so down for a 25 gaming (PC) friend or even just a good chat. If I can meet people in NC, I'd be open to going out eventually.

Bit About Me
I have a wonderful life that I try not to take for granted. Work from home for a mid-sized tech company. I’m responsible enough that I don’t need anyone reminding me to drink my water, take my medicine. Wanting to submit and turn my brain off is more aspirational. Maybe it’s just me, but I can feel the tension even in the stiffness of my grammar.
I'm worn, maybe feeling a little emotionally beaten but I don't feel weak, I don't feel like a victim or a martyr. Please don't believe me to be incapable. I'm a person, just like you, with many facets.

Potential Deal Breakers/Red Flags

• I’m married and have two kids. Happy to answer any questions about that; it’s not a straightforward situation. And yes, it’s helped make dating fun and carefree. 🙄 (There is no cheating or cucking going on at all, I'm not looking for a double life.)
• Left-leaning values & not religious.
• Am so stupidly susceptible to love-bombing both ways so don't be too adorable. (😉, but also seriously)

Traits

• Being kind, enthusiastic, passionate, loving, curious and open-minded.
• I try to work on emotional intelligence, cultural competence, playfulness, and creativity.

Hobbies

• Hiking (I’m privileged to have beautiful trails nearby.
• Music (reggae, rock, rap, dancehall lately. Need happy hip-whining beats. But I genuinely listen to almost everything. Exception is most video game soundtracks, I can't just enjoy a video game soundtrack on it's own.)
• Video games
• Tabletop games (trying to get back into MtG, tips more than welcome)
• Traveling
• Reading
• Psychology
• Philosophy
• Reaction/breakdown videos
• Coding (Python right now but I technically have certs in JavaScript and C#)
• Skincare
• Live performances (musicals, concerts, opera, symphony)

Sex Stuff
My experience has been molding myself into a switch for submissive men, which has been lovely. I love learning new things. I mention it because it means I’ve had limited experience actually being with someone dominant, even though that is my preference. I sometimes get a dominant attitude but I’d like to think I’m good at redirecting and learning.

Here are a few things I can get very enthused about:

• Blowjobs
• Praise/worship
• Orgasm control/edging
• Overstimulation/gooning
• Dirty talk/dirty names
• Spanking
• [Mutual] masturbation
• Light pain
• Light choking
• Breeding (nah really tho, w/birth control)
• Cumplay
• Sexting
• Teasing
• Toys
• CNC
• Free use
• Sleep play
• Comfy lingerie, like fishnets/stockings

HARD Limits/Not Looking For

• Age regression
• Animals, animal play
• Urine, scat, diapers
• Blood, violence, abuse
• Cucking/cheating
• Disrespect/humiliation
• Dishonesty
• Immaturity

If Interested...
Chat/DM and please include:

1. A bit about yourself
2. What you liked about my post
3. Why you think we might be a good match
4. Anything else you would like to share

Bonus points:
A picture; physical attraction matters. I am but a human bean. I'll reciprocate.
Sarcasm/intelligence/humor.
Humility done right is my kryptonite. An underrated trait I find consistently lacking in most people. Narrow those people down to self-proclaimed doms?! Yikes. But I like what I like, arrogance is an instant turn off.

If Not Interested... 🖕🏽
Haha, just kidding. I’d still be open to feedback if you feel like giving it. Perspectives that disagree with mine are arguably more valuable than yes-men; will definitely read earnestly.
I'm also okay with being "ghosted" or blocked early on, it's a time-saver. "Nice guys" have wasted way more of my time than blunt guys.

Silly little addition, as if this wasn't lengthy enough.. This is Reddit, I can see your profile. Some of you are unaware of that, or maybe you expect me not to check. If I care, I'm going to check and clearly I care.