Hello all, I assume if you clicked on my post you're suffering from the same thing I have been lately. It's unfortunate that some people use this kink as an excuse or reason to get off, or for the fake doms just to score nudes. I've been in this kink for a while and I'm tired of temporary or casual dynamics. I want something I can build with someone, something meaningful and actually real. If you agree and are on the same mindset I'd love to talk with you! I'll briefly tell you about myself.

The basics - I'm Sam, 29, Male, from Alabama. I'm 6'2, I have a big chest and shoulders, I'm always referenced as a teddy bear or a lumberjack haha. I've been a daddy, dom, master, owner, for over 8 years now. Most have been long term dynamics that lasted more than a year. I have both experience online and irl.

How I am as a daddy/dom - I value honesty, communication, loyalty, and overall someone willing to put in the same effort and work I am. My main goal as a dom is to make sure you feel comfortable, safe, and happy under my care. All the other stuff is just a great bonus haha. There are two sides to my dom personality; mostly I'm patient and kind, caring, sweet and loving. But push my buttons too hard, disobey or brat too much and you'll see my stern and strict side. To be clear, I enjoy brats, I love the playful back and forth, but I do expect obedience in the end. As far as nsfw things go, I do enjoy them, but of course I want us to be able to take our time and build a connection first. We can go slowly, take baby steps if necessary. These kinks and dynamics can definitely be fun and include sexual aspects to it, but for me it's definitely not the main focus, just another fun bonus haha. To be clear on when I'm okay with nsfw, it's outside of little or sub headspace, when you feel comfortable and like you can coherently consent.

My kinks and nsfw side - I somewhat have a high libido, maybe that's just apart of being a male haha. But just because I do, that doesn't mean I can't take care of it myself, or that I expect my submissive to tend to it. If and when we do engage in nsfw themed content and activities, I want you to join in because you want to, not because you feel obligated to, or just because of service. I want you to want to, make sense? As far as my kinks, I can list the basic ones, and if you're curious about the more specific ones feel free to ask. Impact play, overstimulation, sensory deprivation, orgasm control/denial, edging, bondage, anal/plug, degradation, praise, wax play, breath play, and of course toys. I definitely enjoy nsfw things, but it's not the main focus, it's not the only thing I'm after. I'm perfectly fine, and prefer getting to know someone before it begins. Plus, it's always so much more enjoyable when there is that emotional connection.

My hobbies/interests - So I love the outdoors; I go hiking, camping, whitewater kayaking. If I can be outside, you'll find me there. But it doesn't always have to be high impact or big endurance things either. I love just chilling by a fire or reading a book in a hammock. Speaking of books, I love to read. I'm usually averaging around 50 books a year. I'm more into fantasy and science fiction, I thank my dad for that. So think Tolkien, Issac Asmov, H.G. Wells, Frank Herbert. But I enjoy any book that can captivate my attention of course. I also enjoy spending time with my family, I'm a proud uncle, to my four siblings it gives me plenty of opportunity for my perfect uncle name haha (Uncle Sam). I'm always happy to be the fun goofy uncle that gets silly with them, it comes naturally from my soft daddy side. I also enjoy music and video games, and a good movie. With all of those, the genre mostly depends on the current mood. I pretty much enjoy all.

What I'm looking for - I don't have much preference on looks or personality, but that being said there are some things that will definitely peak my interest more than others. As far as personality goes, I'm typically leaning more towards someone who can mirror me, or at least is compatible with my personality. I enjoy a carefree attitude and more go-with-the-flow type of person. I'm easy to get along with and it takes a lot to get me upset or mad, you can thank my thick skin from growing up with three sisters haha. As I said before, I'm fine with brats, and I do enjoy the playfulness it can bring. But if you are a brat, I want it to be for the playful reasons, the power struggle and being cute. Not being bratty just because, I call that bitch behavior haha.

As far as looks go, I've honestly dated all types. From your paper thin and petite to thicc and curvy women. So it doesn't matter to me, honestly personality always trumps looks, but that doesn't mean it isn't important as well. I think any romantic or sexual relationship requires physical attraction, but for sure isn't the main focus. My only requirement on looks is being healthy and able to keep an active lifestyle. That goes on both ends, petite and curvy. With all that being said, I totally understand physical and health conditions, and that is an excuse in its own. I fully understand and also have trouble with my thyroid, but I try to eat healthy and go to the gym during the weekdays, and allow for the weekends to be my cheat day. All it requires is diligence and hard work, anyone can do it.

What I can bring - I try my best to provide a safe place for my submissive or little. My main focus is to make sure you thrive in your life, in all parts. I want to be a comforter, and encourager, provider, caregiver, and someone you can count on. Whether it's a place for you to heal, feel comfortable, or just enjoy a space you can feel little or submissive with someone you trust. Of course trust takes time, it is scary to be vulnerable with someone. So I'm perfectly fine taking our time, going slowly, and taking baby steps along the way to happiness. That's in all aspects of our potential dynamic, not just nsfw themed parts. I've also created a handbook or rulebook over the years and curated it, added to it, adjusted it and so on. I use it as a base or building block for us to build off of. Each dynamic is different, so of course we will have different needs. I definitely don't just use it as a blanket rulebook. Anything in it can be added/changed/removed to our specific needs.

Closing statements - To me, being a dom or a daddy is so much more than just the fun stuff. I want to take care of someone, be there for them. It may sound cheesy or cringe, but be someone they depend on, someone they can lean on. I've done the temporary or casual dynamics before, and they can be fun in their own way, no shame on those that do it. But as of right now, I want to build a connection with someone.

So if you've like what you've read, if you just want a chat with someone, if you're a little/sub that needs advice, or if you're looking for something I just described: please send me a message or a DM, I'd love to talk with you! I'm happy just making friends, or seeing if we have good chemistry, or anything. So even if you are nervous or scared to try and start a dynamic with someone, that's okay, I know it can be hard to trust someone. So no agenda here, I just hope to meet some lovely people!

Also, I'm definitely an open book, you can ask me anything you want. I can tell you my past experience, my opinion on a matter, I'm willing to discuss anything at all. Oh did I say this would be brief? My apologies haha.

I hope you have a lovely day! Talk to you soon!