Hello!

I'm not exactly sure what I'm looking for, but maybe we start with my ideal and work our way from there to reality. I want to trust someone so much that I can melt into them safely. To feel like I belong to someone who I respect, look up to, and want to protect in return. I want to fall asleep and wake up thinking about this person. Stream whatever for each other, send them random (wholesome) things that excite me throughout the day, be proud and supportive of them for their accomplishments and growth. Hear about the best parts of their day. Make plans to meet up, even if those plans never come to fruition.

I’m a possessive person and I’m working on that. And I know it might be a fantasy, but someone who doesn't watch porn while "in a relationship" would be a dream. Mostly because I want to take care of those needs; I’m kind of greedy about it. I want to mold to one person perfectly. I want to be able to tell how they’re feeling just from the way their breath catches. Sex is important to me and I definitely want to make sure that's a good fit. It would never monopolize a relationship, but please totally ask about my preferences in a chat!
There is no expectation that this dynamic will last forever. Just as long as we’re both happy & continue to find fulfillment with each other.

Okay but realistically, I'd be so down for a gaming (PC) friend or even just a little chat. If I can meet people in NC, I'd be open to going out eventually.

Bit About Me
I have a wonderful life that I try not to take for granted. Work from home for a mid-sized tech company. I’m responsible enough that I don’t need anyone reminding me to drink my water, take my medicine. Wanting to submit and turn my brain off is more aspirational. Maybe it’s just me, but I can feel the tension even in the stiffness of my grammar.

Potential Dealbreakers

• I’m married and have two kids. Happy to answer any questions about that; it’s not a straightforward situation. And yes, it’s helped make dating fun and carefree. 🙄
• Left-leaning values & not religious.

Traits

• Being kind, enthusiastic, passionate, loving, curious and open-minded.
• I try to work on emotional intelligence, cultural competence, playfulness, and creativity.

Physical

• 5'5" Latinx, dark brown hair, brown eyes, glasses. Usually wearing black because it minimizes decision fatigue. Combining that with my piercings gives me an alt look. I've been told I'm cute, pretty, and juicy (but ehh, I didn’t like that last one).

Hobbies

• Hiking (I’m privileged to have beautiful trails nearby)
• Video games
• Tabletop games (trying to get back into MtG, tips more than welcome)
• Traveling
• Reading
• Psychology
• Philosophy
• Rap reaction videos
• Coding (Python right now but I technically have certs in JavaScript and C#)
• Skincare
• Live performances (musicals, concerts, opera, symphony)

Sex Stuff

My experience has been molding myself into a switch for submissive men, which has been lovely. I love learning new things. I mention it because it means I’ve had limited experience actually being with someone dominant. I sometimes get a dominant attitude but I’d like to think I’m good at redirecting and learning.

Here are a few things I can get enthused about:

• Blowjobs
• Praise/worship
• Orgasm control/edging
• Overstimulation/gooning
• Dirty talk/dirty names
• Spanking
• [Mutual] masturbation
• Light pain
• Light choking
• Breeding
• Cumplay
• Sexting
• Teasing
• Toys
• CNC
• Free use
• Sleep play

Hard Limits/Not Looking For

• Age regression
• Animals, animal play
• Urine, scat, diapers
• Blood, violence, abuse
• Cucking/cheating
• Disrespect/humiliation
• Dishonesty
• Immaturity

If Interested...

Chat/DM and please include:

1. A bit about yourself
2. What you liked about my post
3. Why you think we might be a good match
4. Anything else you would like to share

Bonus points:
A picture; physical attraction matters. I’ll reciprocate.
If you're good at video games (Very attractive)
Nice voices. (You know who you are)
Veiny and/or callused hands. (Goes without saying)
Sarcasm/intelligence/humor
Humility done right is my kryptonite.

If Not Interested... 🖕🏽
Haha, just kidding. I’d still be open to feedback if you feel like giving it. Perspectives that disagree with mine are arguably more valuable than yes-men; will definitely read earnestly. I'm also okay with being "ghosted" or blocked, it's a time-saver. "Nice guys" have wasted way more of my time than blunt guys.