I've been looking for a very special woman who is happily in control of her life, yet craves the release and surrender of submission to someone above her.

Pleasure isn't always simple. For some, it's a gift of love to bring them to tears and blubbering begging. For others, it's to be put in their place mentally. So they know in their bones they belong under me. It's all about learning each other. I see power exchange as an amazing 'conversation' of energy between two people. It's a unique form of intimacy, where through bondage, pain or humiliation, the submissive's veneer of normalcy is stripped away, and her inner self is revealed and validated.

I do love having a woman willing to endure hard things for me, but I also naturally reward that with kindness and nurturing, to help her be the best she can. Whether that's within the kink dynamic, to help drive her submissive urges deeper, or in her normal life to accomplish her goals. It's important to maintain a balance of control and compassion. I don't want to dominate someone I don't like and care for. Nor do I want someone who has no self-worth. Offering your submission when you have no personal power is like writing a check when your account is empty. The gesture is hollow. But when a strong woman feels inspired to kneel, it's a beautiful moment for both of us.

In my day to day life, I'm a software developer/business owner. I'm into sailing, screenwriting, film directing, skiing, scuba diving and great chats over coffee. I'm also a sadist. So yes, I love working a woman over, physically and emotionally. I love mapping her out and exploring her horizons. I'm in an ethically open marriage, where we both have the freedom to explore with others. It works well for us, with no drama.

As for safety, I pride myself on paying attention closely to my submissive, in the moment. So I can quickly learn what she needs and fears, and what is too much at the time. But, expanding boundaries is key. Has this captured your attention? If so, I look forward to hearing from you!