Boy what a title. tl;dr: Soft Dom looking for a daughter/step-daughter submissive for on-going D/s relationship.

I'd say I fall more in the area of a "soft Dom" but I'm not quite the type a good girl can wrap around her finger. I'm firm when I need to be and when I, or we, have a goal or objective, I maintain that direction. So if you need help from your (step-)dad to set a routine for your studies or hobbies or diets, whatever it is you'd like help with, I won't be easily distracted. Which means that you'll be held accountable to meet the goals we mutually set for you. Don't get me wrong though, I preach and believe in positivity so I'm going to be here to encourage you and motivate you. It also means I believe in positive reinforcement more than negative reinforcement. Praise and rewards are ready to be earned.

Okay okay, you get it. I'm a caring and supporting Daddy ready to offer you support, encouragement, praise, accountability, as well as some deliciously kinky fun together over text & voice. But what can you give me in exchange, what am I looking for?

Control. That's the main thing that gets to me. If I can give you the fatherly advice, accountability, and the long-distance shoulder to lean on.. Can you give me the control I ache for, over your wardrobe, your masturbating habits, your discreet and very private life? Do you enjoy making your Daddy as happy as he enjoys making you feel nurtured and safe?

Let me get down to specifics: The title mentions specifically "age gap" and it's something that has grown on me the last couple years so I'm looking for a sub 18-25 but is mature enough to commit to a dynamic. My other preferences are someone who is healthy meaning hwp/slim, no smoking, no drugs, and drinking infrequent at most. I'm open to pretty much any type of personality but I don't think a super-clingy sub would work as I work during the week on a mostly-planned-but-somewhat-chaotic schedule (hooray for self-employment) and am in a stable relationship with a vanilla partner who gives me her blessing in this (likewise she is allowed to date others as long as communication is open and honest).

How about me, what would you be getting? Vanilla me loves international ice hockey, international music (strong love for kpop and Band-Maid), and languages as I can read Finnish, basic Russian, and basic Korean. I enjoy video games (but Baldur's Gate 3 might have ruined that) and things like logic puzzles and fantasy novels. A big MCU geek. A dorky personality in general and I enjoy flirting. I'm very calm and chill and I don't do things like jealousy but if you are my sub then you will be my sub just like I will be your Dom. Physically I'm 41 years old and have the unfortunate "aging man belly" that age comes with. Salt & pepper hair in a short haircut with a matching beard. I have glasses, love cats, and like scheduling plans in advance.

Kinky me craves wardrobe control, orgasm control, and speech control. Also on the list are things like affectionate teasing/namecalling, tasks & challenges, discreet play, toys, joi, edging, affection, light bondage, light pain, free use, bodywriting (lipstick), and pet play.

Things that are off-limits for me are: scat, blood, puke, anything risky or unsafe, drugs, anything illegal, heavy pain, bare feet, underage, ageplay, scars/wounds, and permanent marks.

See how thorough I am? That's how I try to approach everything so if you're interested please be aware that we won't be rushing into anything. I want to make sure there's chemistry and we both have a clear understanding and agreement before going forward. Consent, honesty, open communication, and safety are mandatory. Absolutely mandatory.