Hi there!

According to a very unreliable source I found on the front page of Google, men take about 58 seconds to decide whether they’re interested in someone’s dating profile. Is it the same for r/BDSMPersonals? Who’s to say. All I know is that I hope I can make this worth your while.

Here’s what I’m seeking: someone kind and empathetic who’s driven about their goals and passions. That’s really the core of this, as someone who’s searching for a long-term partner. I can’t do casual, so there needs to be a solid foundation based on mutual attraction and trust. Ideally, you’d also be between the ages of 25-35, (although that’s not a hard cutoff!) and looking to settle down in a steady, monogamous relationship.

First important caveat: I need us to spend at least a couple months getting to know each other before diving into a dynamic. I know that might seem like a while, but I really want to do this right. My hope would be that all the time spent on building a connection would lay the grounds for a truly beautiful relationship as submissive and Dominant.

As for me, I’m a college student and intern who’s trying to do right by the world. I love reading classics, watching old rom-coms, baking, and playing cozy video games. (Think Stardew Valley and Animal Crossing.) I also try to volunteer in my spare time, because I believe in giving back to my community. I’m also all about late night conversations that span from our favourite conspiracy theories to our biggest aspirations for the future.

Kink-wise, I’m looking for a caregiver who sets rules, makes daily decisions for me, and doles out punishments when I’ve stepped out of line. Basically, a “typical” DDLG dynamic without the age-play. Additionally, I’d really enjoy following traditional gender roles in the context of our relationship. Not because I believe everyone in society should follow them, but because I find they are what’s right for me. Absolutely not saying that we have to live like we’re in some 50s sitcom, as that’s completely unrealistic for modern-day life. However, I would feel most comfortable following your guidance, and feeling protected by your presence. In return, I hope I could make you feel most appreciated by my acts of service and devotion.

Now, another important caveat. I find I venture into a very soft and sensitive mindset when I’m in subspace, so I’ll need someone who’s patient and encouraging, while also maintaining that dominant, guiding undertone. Although I’m not a huge fan of labels, I think I’d be more suited for something who falls under the “soft-dom” umbrella. Also, praise is huge for me, so I’ll need that to be the main motivator. Not that a spanking and stern talking-to wouldn’t also do the trick, but I’d need those to be less frequent. Oh, and cuddling is an absolute must here, too. The more I can touch you physically the better!

Alright, I know I probably ran out of time a couple paragraphs back. I’m sure even skimming this behemoth of a personal took longer than any elevator pitch. But hopefully, there’s something in here that caught your eye and inspired you to turn that 58 seconds into something a whole lot longer.