Hi there, thanks for clicking :)

As the title mentions based in NL, I'm currently dating one serious partner who is aware of the fact that we're poly ;) and I'm looking for a fwb connection with someone who's willing to build some SFW trust before we turn our dates into NSFW playdates.

And although I used the F4A flair; my only physical requirement is that you have and like using your male genitalia. It's an oral fixation for me 🤷🏽‍♀️

I don't know how to start. Honestly I'm feeling a bit awkward because I feel like I'm not "the perfect sub" . I don't need or want mentorship or guidance, I'm not clingy or in need of validation outside of designated play times, and when people treat me like I'm a brat I just laugh and forget they exist.

When sub-space takes over I'm shy, incredibly sensitive to praise and pretty much any and every physical contact makes me melt. All I want to do is please you, not a single thought in my head besides your touch, your command, and the need to have you inside me.

The difference between clear-brained-me and sub-space me is incredibly stark and I'm looking for someone who at the very least understands and respects that difference and ideally gets satisfaction from being that one person I can surrender to when I'm craving loss of control, without feeling the need to dominate me into submission, or demand proof of my submission outside of play time. I don't need a hard hand, I need open arms and a slow, secure hold. Someone who enjoyes being in control while we're together, and wants to treat me as an equal outside of that headspace.

My fantasies include free use, bondage, deepthroating, cock warming, orgasm control, overstimulation, light humiliation and/or exhibitionism, and with the right partner I would like to know what it feels like to get spanked until I cry and have them comfort me by making love to me. Besides that and some nipple play as a counter-balance to my sensitivity; I'm not interested in pain.

My favourite way of serving you is having you in my mouth while you are gaming, watching a show/movie, reading a book, drinking your morning coffee/tea.

My favourite way of climaxing is either forced over and over or being denied until after you have been satisfied in every way. I'd love to feel comfortable enough to call someone Daddy, but it's not a must and definitely not a title I'd like to use out of nowhere. Same goes for being called your good little girl. During play time I enjoy wearing what I would call easy access clothing. Crop tops, skirts, dresses with buttons, panties that clearly show how wet I am for you, jumper pj's with buttons below for sleepovers. Hypersexual insomniacs who use my sleepy body for their pleasure; yes please.

Even though my first language is Dutch; it's not a good language for dirty talk imo. Again not a must but if you can switch to English for play time I would greatly appreciate it.

Big nono's include severe humiliation, degradation, physical marking (although I can appreciate a bite of passion as long as it's in a discrete place), watersports, scat, blood, and knifeplay. Any extremes really.

Some SFW notables; I live comfortably with my two cats and I am working on a uni degree. I'm an extroverted introvert; love hanging out with people but I really need my recharge time. My mental health is a bit of a challenge, but something I'm actively working on with the help of therapy. Plus my main coping mechanism is humor so I'd rather laugh than cry by default. I'm not friends with many people, but the friendships I do have I value deeply and try to ensure their well being in any way I can.

I like many (and by which I mean many) creative pursuits including but not limited to: music (flute, guitar, piano, singing), textile (sewing, embroidery, crochet), writing, drawing, painting, goldsmithing. I also love reading and making food. I really enjoy spending time outside, but preferably with someone. On my own I like to keep to myself and my overgrown garden. Obligatory #not a gamer except for the Sims franchise.

Oh and not to brag but my cats can sit on command, come when called, and go on a walk without a leash. Aside from Reddit and YouTube no social media for this lass, and I'm 420 friendly. Not really a drinker but I don't mind if you do. Physically speaking I have no real preferences, but I'd feel uncomfortable with too much of an age gap. Early 40's is my absolute max. I am 1m66, mixed ethnicity, dark curly hair, brown eyes, 68 kg, nice smile, cute c/d-cup and a waistline made for grabbing if I do say so myself. SFW pictures are possible upon request, but only if you say the generally known and accepted magic word. Manners matter people.

Some practical notables: I rely on public transport so about an hour's travel is my maximum unfortunately. If you're able and willing to travel I don't really care about the distance ofcourse. If we click I'd like to meet up somewhere public for the first two or three times before having our rendezvous in a more private setting.

Congratulations if you made it through this absolute wall of a post, but at least you can make an informed decision when it comes to contacting me or not :P If any of this sounds like something you'd be interested in; I'd love to hear from you, ASL, and how you're envisioning our possible time together.

-X- Elly

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