Hey there!

To start off, I want to make it clear that I'm looking for an actual partner for a long-term connection, not just looking to get our rocks off and go our separate ways. I'm Demisexual which the best way to sum it up is that I feel sexual attraction but I can't be sexually involved with someone until I form a deeper emotional connection with them, so it's more of a slow burn than a full sprint out of the gates. Which is why I'm looking for someone to form a connection with on a personal level before we take things further. Ideally you are similar, or at least patient and want to get to know me, because I want to get to know you!

This also means that I'm strictly looking for a monagamous partner.

About myself in a non-kink setting: I'm an engineer for work, and outside of work I like playing video games, reading sci-fi/fantasy, watching science-y youtube, cooking, etc. I'm pretty introverted but really like having long, rambling conversations with someone about just whatever topics/ideas come up and just letting the conversation go wherever it goes (I go on tangents a lot, so be prepared). For my physical appearance, I'm white, 6'3", ~225lb (few pounds to lose still), short brown hair, and tend to stay pretty clean shaven (no beard or mustache, sorry ladies XD)

In terms of kink, I don't want to list a bunch of things because that's no fun. I like to take the time to explore with a partner, try new things, see what they like/don't like, see what I like/don't like, etc. I'm a switch so a lot of the things I enjoy about d/s situations applies to both being a dom and a sub. I like exploring kink through positivity and an equal partnership, not so much as through negativity or forcefulness. That's not to say there's no room for those things, but in general I want my partner to feel fulfilled both as a domme and/or a sub. I don't want my partner to feel like they're not good enough for me, and similarly I don't want to feel that I'm not good enough for my partner. I will say that I'm probably less on the "extreme" side of d/s, I'm not so interested in extreme pain, required honorifics, butt stuff (in either direction), I'm more interested in things like tease/denial, edging, orgasm control, bondage/sensation play, etc.

Ideally you live in the LA/OC area so we can actually do things together in person, but I'm not against the idea of online play if we hit it off!

Anyway, I never know how much to share/not share here, but I'm happy to answer any questions you may have, so feel free to send me a message!