I am the sort of girl that few would ever seriously suspect: friendly and thoughtful, pretty and sweet, assertive yet soft-spoken. I am well-educated, I have a successful career, and I live a fairly quiet life. It brings me a certain satisfaction to know how shocked people might be if they knew the things I do in private, and how thrilling I find it to wrap a collar around another girl’s neck and call her my property.

There is such a relief in selfishness. I don’t mind maintaining polite humility most of the time—true arrogance is very ugly, even to me—but it is nice when someone else understands that there are certain indulgences I both need and deserve. To crave worship and admiration is in my nature, and it is so very cathartic to be able to act on my baser urges: whether that’s as simple as having someone kneeling at my side or as intense as casually pinning her down and making use of her body however I see fit. Dominance is something I’m wired to do, and it is something I live and breathe, though usually in subtle ways.

I know that there are people out there who, remarkably, need me every bit as much as I need them. Do you long to be able to relinquish yourself to someone, to feel safe with someone, to feel like your life is taken care of and given purpose by someone? Perhaps you’ve been disappointed how hard it is to find a dominant woman who you feel actually deserves you. After all, though it is fun to call the things I want selfish, I know all too well that any relationship built on these desires takes effort, work, and dedication, and it involves quite a lot of tenderness and a very real exchange of effort and trust. In practice, what I seek is something every bit as emotional as it is sexual, possibly even more so, and it is enormously fulfilling for me to provide that comfort for someone. Imperfection is to be expected—we are only human—but I still believe it is necessary for us to earn one another, and I am deeply committed to doing so.

If what I’ve written speaks to you, in any way, I want to hear from you. I am gentle (at least at first), and there is no harm in talking. The last thing I want is for the person I’m looking to refrain from saying hello purely because she’s uncertain or intimidated. At present, I am mainly looking for local people in or near Chicago interested in having an in-person relationship (eventually, at least), but I can still enjoy chatting with just about anyone, so please do not hesitate to reach out. I look forward to hearing from you. ❤