I’ve been lurking here quite a while. Far more than I’d care to admit. However, I’ve come to realize that you have to take a real leap of faith in order to be successful. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. So, as stated above, I’m looking for a Dom who wants to build a solid friendship, romantic partnership, and hopefully, loving dynamic.

Here’s what I’m envisioning, dynamic-wise. We start talking, at first about purely vanilla topics, like work, school, our lives, passions and all things in between. I want to get to know you on a deeper level, so that we have a solid foundation on which to build a dynamic. I need to be able to call you a close friend before I’m able to call you any honorific. Once we get there though, I’d love to perform acts of service, follow your rules, and take your punishments if I step out of line. I’m looking for someone akin to a caregiver, who will create a routine for me, keep me accountable, but still be affectionate and caring. You’d make daily decisions for me, like what I should wear, how I should do my hair, etc. Once things became serious, I’d look to you to guide me in just about every aspect of my life.

I also definitely have a thing for praise, and so I’d follow your rules and commands as best I could, while responding best to positive reinforcement. At this stage of our relationship, I’m picturing daily, active communication. Hopefully the friendship, now being explored within the roles of a little one and her Daddy, will turn romantic, too. It will take me some time before I’d be comfortable doing anything sexual, but once I am, I picture you controlling my orgasms, too.

As for me, I’m a university student who’s begun a pretty exciting internship. Academics and finding my footing in my career are both very important to me, so a dynamic would have to compliment that.

As far as hobbies and interests go, I’m learning to sew my own clothes (work in progress, but I’m getting there), I do pilates or go for a run every few days, and I’m very passionate about volunteer work throughout my university campus and community. Oh, and the world’s biggest Jane Austen defender.

Now, for the qualities I’m looking for. I’m primarily seeking someone who’s kind, patient, and a good communicator. I want to feel like we can tell each other anything. I’d also be most compatible with someone who’s passionate about their interests, goals and aspirations. As for your kinkier side, I’d need your style of domination to be on the soft side. I still want to be put in my place- just not heavily degraded or humiliated. I’d work best with someone who punishes, rewards, and praises on the basis of trying to help me be the best sub and person I can be. I’d do everything I can to uplift and honour you, too.

To be upfront, I have limited experience with BDSM. I’ve done some exploring, but nothing in person. I also take things incredibly slowly, so some patience is required here. It might take me months before I’m ready to dive into any sort of play. But I can promise I would treat our relationship and hopefully budding dynamic with the utmost care and respect. Hopefully it will all be worth it.

I’m finally ready to explore this part of myself, and I’d love nothing more than to take that journey with a firm, compassionate and caring Dom. The Darcy to my Elizabeth, if you will.