I am looking for a particular facet of my past relationship to motivate me. I have gained about 20 pounds in the last 18 months, about 138 lb vs my stagnant 118. While my ex-husband was toxic in many ways, I do miss the desire and need to be thin, beautiful, and trim for extrinsic rewards and to please a singular man. It was not something that was ever specified by my husband. It just was.
I am not looking for a relationship on here but I have tried accountability partners for weight loss and even had a personal trainer. Doesn't work. Being thin for a guy that I am into is the only thing that motivates me. I have been this way since I was a teenager. I enjoy looking good for my man. Sadly, navigating the dating world in 2024 is nothing short of torture. I have yet to meet a man that ignites that need in me. I don't respect them enough. I don't like them enough. I certainly won't ever disclose it as it is a vulnerable part of me. I also never disclose my submissive inclinations to men as I prefer it to be coaxed and earned from me, rather than manufactured.
Since I do not want this to be sexual, extrinsic rewards will look different. I do not have a plan. I am not used to making a plan. I just need the accountability to be inspired in me by the right man. A singular man. The plan will follow. Or be ordained.
Be 35 , wholly unattached as I do not want to upset any partners that are unaware, add a pic cause I have to be attracted to you for this to work. Central Time Zone. My type is a tall, intellectual who is unrepentantly a man who commands respect from me. Make of that what you will. FYI I am unapologetically black and despise food-related adjectives pejoratives that describe my color. Stay away if you got a thing with race.
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