I am a 35 year old soft dom who is slowly exploring my sadist side. I'm looking for a sub for a long term monogamous relationship. I am 6ft tall slim biult and carribean descent. Non smoker and only take prescribed meds. Social drinker but try not to at all.

I have always been dominant in relationships but within the last 2-3 years really started embracing a dominant role. I am kind, patient and understanding. Have been told I am very calming and I do have one person who can attest to my personality from a sub's perspective.

About you: Within 7 years of me either direction. Kind, emotionally intelligent and compassionate. Good hygiene and healthy(your size does not matter as long as you are in good physical health). No preference to race or ethnicity but I do enjoy making and seeing bruises. Brats are welcomed but lower priority for me. Kids are ok as I have kids of my own. Must have a source of income. Must have your own private space and or able to get around or to me. No smokers, no drugs. Drinking is ok socially.

NSFW interests: Shibari, spanking, caning, paddling. Force orgasm/orgasm control. Might be interested in light humiliation in private. Fisting and stretching. Ownership and collaring. Anal play. I am also very much into facilitating my partners kinks.

SFW: I'm somewhat nerdy. I work in tech and I'm teaching myself to code. Enjoy video games but haven't been playing as much recently. I like and have cats and house plants. I don't read as much as I use to but will pick up a book every now and then. I enjoy cycling and if you do too that's a HUGE plus. Outside of those I am a serial hobbyist, the new one is crochet. I am very handy and can do most things around the house myself. I also take care of myself, cooking, cleaning and whatever if we end up cohabitating responsibilities will be split.

A coupe of important notes: I cannot and am not interested in any other kids.

Smoking is non-negotiable. Eddibles are here nor there as long as there isn't a dependency.

I am an avid believer in therapy and have a session weekly. If you are a regular at therapy it's a huge plus. I have some neurospiciness(managed with therapy and meds)