Hey there, I've been in my local scene for coming up on 4 years now in August and I've been fortunate enough to have a 20 year kinkster as a mentor for 2 of those. I go by CJ and I am actually going to a Munch tonight in Auburn so if you see this and are planning to attend say Hi.

This post is more about me casting out a line to just see what's out here. I've been a lurker for quite a while on this sub but I notice there's not a ton of activity in the Maine/NE area and I'm hoping that's because its more people like myself who have been lurking.

A quick Vanilla bit:

The name's CJ I make art, mostly sculptures but I draw as well. I powerlift so yes dad bod central but I can also lift most people over my head and toss em so take that for what you will. Aaaaaaand Yeah I play far too many games for my own good ttrpg and video games alike. sci-fi & Fantasy are by far my favorite gaming genres and art to make. (yes feel free to check out some of the posts on here for some examples of art but NSFW warning)

As for the kinky-fuckery:

I am a Top thru and thru, I've demo bottomed for 90% of the things I top for because I believe that if I am going to be smacking somebody around then I should know what a good hit and a bad hit feels like. This is to hopefully give myself a baseline to understand what a bottom means when giving feedback on their specific experience.

When it comes to kinks on a whole I am open to most things: Limits being ABDL, Blood play, or anything permanent. What I call my "base camp" is D/s, Impact, Bondage, and physical Domination, I refer to anything outside of those as "going up the mountain". Somethings are only a little trek outside of camp and I'm 99% comfortable doing them. Then there are things that take us up to one of the peaks and will require much more time and communication to even take them into account. I'm not going to give a full kink list here because A) I've got that all on my Fet (cjst26) and B) I find it more fun to chat about kinks and interests (and see how much you'll squirm) naturally rather than a comprehensive list as just another thing to read.

I am doing my best effort to be an honest and personally authentic person and that means I tend to be a more traditionally masc man. I have been told I have the whole straight passing aesthetic and that's fine by me, I wear clothes for function and utility not because its a certain color or style and I'm on the more conservative side of things when it comes to talking about sex. My funny not joke joke is that "what I do in my bedroom is none of your concern unless you're gonna be the one in there with me". I'm a lot closer to the whole 50s/60s dynamic due to my base self wanting to protect and provide for my partner(minus the whole inhereit misogyny bit). I try and do all the "chivalrous" shit too, doesn't matter who or what you identify as I'm still gonna open the door for you(and smack your ass on the way out too)

I've had a pretty good handle on who I "am" but never really knew what I wanted in terms of a partner so for the past couple years I've been experimenting with different kinds of folks and even trying to go back to Vanilla (not an option as I've found out). So while continuing that quest I'm buttoning down a bit and trying to crack my own code beyond just "ooh cute bottom" and find that person who I have that "spark" with as my mentor & friends have been saying they had.

As for YOU . . .

I am open to any Gender/Sex/whatever BUT. I am attracted to AUTHENTIC Femininity, meaning No I am not interested in Sissies who are dressing/playing in a manor depicting women/femininity in a negative or humiliating light. Femboys, Twinks, Enbies of all kinds, Trans and Cis guys/gals alike I don't care. I care more about the connection we can have than what's in your pants. Weather you like being called a Good Girl, Boy, Or Toy doesn't matter in the slightest to me as they're all fun to say, even more so when you earn it ;)

I do like more petite framed people but really the only hard limits are good hygiene and body hair, I got more than enough for the both of us so I prefer minimal or smooth. I like hair that's long enough to pull and ample skin to mark up. The more feminine you are the more likely I am to have that physical attraction.

I like Femininity in both the personality AND physical sense so one can be more than the other but both are gonna need to be present to at least some degree.

I would like for you to be open to exploring new/different kinks as we get to know one another and hey ya might even teach me something.

Tah Daaaaaah if ya made it to the end! feel free to shoot me a message and we can chat. fet is nice so I can do some super low level vetting but here's fine too. Looking forward to meeting any of you and answering any questions ya might have for me!!