Let me start with the basics that may disqualify based off your preferences or mine:

Me: 37 year old light skinned black man living in the DMV area. I am 5'10, 148lbs, not a particularly large guy due to diet choices, but decently muscular and fit as I work out most days of the week. Outside of exercise, my interests are of your typical nerd (video games, anime, science, fantasy, etc.) as well a fondness for horror movies and going for walks/bike rides. (Hardly an extensive list, but this a blurb. In short, I'm a physically active nerd) Experience wise, I started my kink journey in earnest about 10 years ago. I got involved in the community and went through a handful of D/s dynamics (half online, half in person) before developing one that really suited me. While it lasted quite some time, it was not to be forever - but I know what kind of dom I am and what type of dynamic I seek. Now I am looking for my forever sub who seeks the same. That shall all be expanded upon later, but in short: I am a Gentle Dom (Daddy Dom if it doesn't involve age regression).

You: 23-34 year old woman, though I am willing to consider slightly younger if you are really interested and sure of what you want. Only other hard thing to note is that I am not particularly into overweight girls. That doesn't mean you have to be a stick, but I tend to favor a (relatively) healthy lifestyle and you would have to be able to mesh with that. Pragmatically speaking, it would probably help if you had some nerdy interests as well. Personality wise, I like to have an open mind, but I shall confess to being something of a creature of routine and consistency. A bit of impulsive cuteness is thus most welcome. :)

That stuff out of the way, let me describe the type of relationship I seek and offer.

I am looking for a sub to develop a 24/7 D/s dynamic with based off a mutually understood and agreed upon framework. To me, the beauty and appeal of a D/s relationship is the overall control and power ceded to the dom by the sub. That is not to say I seek TPE, your submission to me as Master is just that - submission to me. You are allowed your own thoughts, actions, and desires, but expected to ultimately submit to my desires and guidance. It is my job to establish a playground for you in which you can feel safe and secure in knowing that my rules and guidance are there. In return, you offer your submission to me, to please me as I desire. That may sound rather intense, but merely laying out how I view things conceptually.

My style as a dom is not overtly dominating, rarely do I come off as very aggressive. (Though it can happen if it needs to...) Controlling I am inclined to be, strict in desires but not in countenance or attitude. I am quick to smile and generally positive, but insistent and unyielding.

I will collar you. I will look after your health in terms of diet and exercise. I will set rules and expectations around the house. I will establish boundaries as to what you're allowed to do and what you aren't. I will guide you if you are unsure about your career, education, or any other important matter. You'll be obedient to my commands. You'll be able to rely on me as a source of nurturing, guidance, and discipline. I'll take a moment to doubly emphasize that, as I seek a submissive, not a slave, I do not seek total and absolute control. A caregiver type of dom I am with the notion of ownership being a constant, but passive aspect to the relationship. Master/pet would be a fairly accurate description, but I don't favor being overly rigid in identifications, every dynamic is unique.

It is easy to view D/s and other forms of BDSM purely through the lens of sexual fetishes. That is not me. If you wish for someone to treat you sadistically in set scenes or view you purely as a sex object, there are other doms more suited for you. While rough, power-based play in sex is naturally extremely hot
(I suppose this is a good point to list some of my major kinks: Bondage, CNC, Spanking, Choking, Sensory Deprivation)
The overall context of submission is just as valuable. To obediently suck Master's dick when commanded, or to ride Daddy to climax when he needs to release some stress... simple and fairly vanilla things can represent the sweetest acts of submission. Besides....when looking at sex isolated from anything else, it's the making you submit rather than offered submission that's the most fun... but that's a whole other line of thought from the overall D/s dynamic!

While the dynamic goal is known, this is still a lasting relationship I refer to. As such, I would expect us to take the time to get to know one another before we fully enter into any sort of full D/s affair. You should want to offer your submission to me as I should want to offer you my guidance and control. If you live close enough, this would be easy enough, but as that is unlikely - I imagine it would start as an online affair and transition into real life. As far as what that online portion would entail, beyond chatting I would personally envision MMOs/Co-Op games as another way of interacting. This would have the added benefit of allowing us to explore the D/s dynamic in limited/digital ways before a full commitment is made.

If I sound like the type of dom that you want, feel free to reach out. I've found in the past that it's often shy/anxious girls that I appeal to, so if the idea of messaging is daunting - a simple "hi" is fine. :)

*This is an update to my previous post with a few things clarified and expanded upon based off some of the interactions I've had thus far.