*breathes*

Hi there, well, here goes my shot....

Repeat poster and long time lurker like a lot of people, looking to get back into the community and find a partner for fun times after a long time away and hoping to find someone to be a long time back too!

A bit about me first of all and what I can offer :

• Single
• UK based and open to online to IRL relationships but I've found distance can be good too as the virtual world offers so many more options
• Spent around 9 years in and out of the community throughout life
• Keen on cooking, gardening, cycling and travel (yes I know that can also be defined as 'human')
• Huge pe....rsonality
• Terrible sense of humour (or good, I call it good but that is subjective, see above)
• Lots of free time
  • I work during the week like most will but I have hours free in the evenings and during the day too as I work from a home office. I'd appreciate if anyone who reaches out feels they can spare at least a couple of hours a week but ideally more.

Why am I posting here now?

Simple answer, I've lurked for a while, chatted to a few people who have posted and found success so I figured I'd chance my arm.

I've also been out for a while and I know that when I am, I feel like something is missing in life (mainly because I end up leaving the time free I normally put aside) - put it this way, for me, kink is the priority right now over other parts of life. I have a lot of free time and my career is really settled so I can put all my effort into this.

What is my experience / what am I looking for?

Someone polite and pretty laid back (read 'I am not a party animal')

We might not be a good fit, absolutely fine, I just like to be mature and well mannered about it if that is the case - read 'don't ghost, just tell it as it is'

9 years in BDSM / kink and general erotica

Mixture of relationship styles and engagements within kink - tried out being a sub, dom, switch, master etc. Male and female partners, tried a lot of kinks too even the ones I thought I'd dislike, some I did and the pain can be as unreal as expected, some I actually liked. The one big thing I should call out early on is pee is something I love in a partner, well, on a partner too - let's go with general watersports (and I don't mean canoeing).

Ideally, looking for someone who has a purpose in life and a settled life to build kink into ; I am ideally looking for a sub who is either open to going deep into the rabbit hole who is new or someone experience and open to the more painful, gross and extreme kinks

You don't need to be free all the time, in the past I've found the better partners have been busy ones because they are good at prioritising. I'd love to see you too as part of any ongoing dynamic and happy to share likewise (face is at any partner's discretion and the pictures can be deleted on your request, they aren't mine unless you consent).

Consent is also a huge thing so if you are ENM or getting into this, please be in a place where you are in a headspace to consent to things as it can get pretty intense.

Generally, I am quite laid back as a person, work a standard 9 - 5 office job in the UK for time zone purposes and not got any pets but love cats and dogs (preference is cats but dogs are cool too, the variety of breeds is the fun bit - just like the breeds in kink).

I realise that this is a community and page heavily weighted by the male side of the sexual spectrum but hopefully my post has offered enough to get a reply or two so look forward to hearing from you (and yes, my name on here was chosen no auto generated so let's see who can tell why)

Thanks and hope to speak to you soon - what's your go to drink of choice to see if you read it all?

B