Usually I’m a Domme with men- but recently had an absolutely life changing week with an in-town-for-his-tech-day-job Pleasure/Daddy Dom. There’s no way for us to realistically carry on our connection, so I’m looking for similar vibes with someone closer to home. To be 100% clear- I am NOT looking for anyone who is non-local or online play.

Vanilla me is tatted, pierced, non-natural hair color, with a good job in tech (not a techie). In therapy weekly, intelligent (emotionally and otherwise), have been described as interesting and quirky (in a good way), very transparent and upfront, and have a preference for very honest and direct communication. I enjoy reading, meeting new people/ socializing (but definitely need time to recharge afterwards), live music of most genres, a good couple of beers or wine (but not a massive drinker), and enjoy moving my body, but not massively into fitness.

Kinky me is looking for an attentive and caring, but knows how to be rough/tough as needed/ negotiated, Daddy/ Pleasure Dom. I am very much into praise, some degradation, light to medium impact play, cum/squirt play, have a cum kink (prefer not to call it breeding because I have less than zero interest in getting pregnant), restraints, orgasm control, vocal/ slightly primal partners, dirty talk, and all manner of toys. And would love to find someone with significant overlap with those interests. Open to more/other things with time/negotiation.

Someone who likes and can handle a little bit of sass/bratting is a plus, especially in the beginning, since that’s usually when it will show up from my experience. Very much looking for physical affection- snuggles, kisses, playing with my hair, trailing of fingers along skin- all the things that I think make most people generally feel the “I am wanted/protected/adored” warm fuzzies.

I HIGHLY value open communication, enthusiastic consent, and kink knowledge and experience. Safety in all aspects for everyone involved is absolutely non-negotiable. I am looking for someone who knows how to negotiate, is emotionally available, mature, and secure, and who is looking for something to be invested in, and for something long term. I do not require strict monogamy, since I’m definitely at minimum monogamish, but likely more poly-leaning, as I deeply value emotional connections, and find there’s a lot of beauty in the way that poly relationships tend to be/form/evolve.

I am NOT looking for fake doms, newbies, someone who’s not interested in me as a whole and complex person and is only after sex/ emotionally disconnected kink, scammers, dick pics, or anyone who thinks they can start bossing me around or incorporating honorifics without my express consent.

I am 5’6, about 190-ish lbs, but carry it decently well. People generally think I’m conventionally attractive, from what they tell me.

I generally find men taller than me with lighter colored hair and eyes attractive- big bonus points for tattoos, alt style, and an accent (go ahead- groan and 🙄, I hate that I’m so basic too 😂). Looking for approximately my age, to a bit older, but I’m not into massive age gaps. Physical attraction is important, but ultimately it comes down to chemistry and vibes for me.

If you think you might fit the bill- please DM me with a bit about yourself, what draws you to this particular style of Domming, and a photo (SFW), and I’ll reply with the same. Please also tell me your favorite flower, so I know you read this. Looking forward to hearing from some (hopefully) interesting folks. 💕