I told one of my friends that I was looking for connections on Reddit, and I could feel the judgment seethe out of her. I told her that I realized it was a lot like looking for a diamond on the beach, to which she replied "That's a horrible analogy, diamonds don't form on the beach." While she is right about where they are formed, I knew she didn't understand how wrong she was.

I have been on this hunt long enough to have met some amazing people in these subreddits. I have met people I've considered my closest confidants. I have met people that it broke my heart not to have chemistry with. I have met people who made me feel like I could fly while I was falling for them. There are treasures in this space, and I know that among them, there might be one that will bring unmeasurable worth to my life.

I know there has to be someone on here that can relate to me.

Someone who knows that kink is a part of them, but it isn't there entire personality. Who knows they are destined to grow and change, and look for the the doors that life opens for them to explore.

Someone who values their kinky side, and isn't ashamed it exists. For many years I tried to buy who I was, and all I learned from that is it kept me from finding my own version of peace.

Someone who is adult enough to still enjoy life like a kid. Someone who wants to chase wonder and excitement, whether that means a spontaneous road trip or saving for a lavish experience. Who can find joy in the small and cute and awe in the large and magnificent.

Someone who nurtures their creativity. In their life, they have a way of allowing life help them express their thoughts and feelings in a tangible way. With their partner, they like to not just settle on the tried and true, but thinks of ways to add spice to what they have, learning what flavor suits them best.

Someone who finds confidence in how they present themselves. Who makes choices in how they look and what they wear so they can feel like they are truly expressing who they are on the inside for the world to see, and are proud what what they present.

Someone who realizes pleasure is in the path, not the destination. That means in the hurdles of day to day life, and in the time enjoyed in a physical way.

Someone who knows their kink self is not just how they can find their own purpose, but know they serve a vital element to their partner. They know that what they are naturally can be the balm the soothes their partners needs, and bring as much peace as it does excitement.

So that's me...I guess the question now is...is this you?