About Me

I come across as serious and driven (because I am), but deep down I think I might crave being used. On the outside I look like a dominant, confident, and attractive guy. And in most of my relationships that’s who I’ve been. But I’ve always been curious to know what it might be like to have that role reversed.

I love staying active and take my fitness very seriously. In the interest of discretion, I’ll just say that I’m highly educated and absolutely love what I do. I’m fortunate to have a career that makes the world a better place (at least in small ways), and I care a lot about that mission.

What I’m Looking for

The list of kinks I want to explore is pretty basic. Orgasm control/denial, bondage, spanking, discreet public play, and tasks/rewards/punishment. Not interested in any anal play, pegging, sissification, or findom. Our lists don’t have to match perfectly; I want to try new things and am looking for someone who helps me find and stretch my limits.

Ideally, I’m looking for something very casual. I don’t want something one-and-done, but I also don’t want to commit to any kind of lasting FLR dynamic since I’m not sure it might really be for me. Enjoying each other’s company outside of sex is a big plus.

About You

Outside the bedroom, I like women who are affable, kind, and clever. I’m inquisitive and highly attracted to passionate people who let me pick their brains. A sense of humor is a must. If you make me laugh or I make you laugh that’s great (warning: my jokes are terrible), but mostly I’m looking for someone who doesn’t take life too seriously. I’m an optimist and hope you are, too.

Other miscellaneous things: I’m not looking for anything online so you’ll need live in or regularly visit New York. Age is less important to me than your demeanor and physical presence - I am open minded, I just ask that you be fairly fit/thin.

If you think we’d hit it off, send a message that’ll give me an idea if we might be compatible. What you’re passionate about and a picture are a good start if you’re not sure what to write.

More than anything else I’m looking for chemistry, and I’ve learned the hard way that chemistry online doesn’t necessarily translate to real life. So once we’ve established we’re probably real human beings who might be interested in each other, lets meet up for a low-pressure drink and see where that takes us.

Thanks for reading this far and I hope to hear from you soon!