Hey, I’m Ellie. I’m a 29f somewhat inexperienced sub based in Dorset — and a hopeless romantic looking for ‘the one’.

A little bit about me… I’m 5ft4, average build (working to turn that into an athletic build), brown eyes, brunette, and a little alternative with a few piercings (nose ring, septum, lots in the ears, navel, nipples) and tattoos. Hobbies include travelling, trail/ultra running, hiking, wandering around historical sites for hours on end, and curling up with a good romance novel and a glass of wine. I’m currently back living with parents after the cliched late-twenties breakup.

My kinks… Although I’ve only really had the opportunity to explore on an online basis rather than in the flesh, so to speak, I do have a pretty long list of kinks and interests that I’d like to explore. For the basis of this post, I’ll keep it broad: orgasm control, some humiliation, some pain, breeding, primal play, DDlg. I’m curious about full control/TPE and a dynamic that is present outside of the bedroom, and I’m particularly interested in the more psychological aspect of kink — all with the right person. My limits tend to lie with the common ones: scat, blood, puke.

What I’m looking for… someone preferably in their late twenties to mid thirties who is searching for someone to settle down with (not casual, no-strings or short-term, please). Someone naturally dominant, romantic, and confident in what they want — and who can match my voracious libido ;) Someone kind, caring, great at communication and with a good sense of humour. Someone who likes a bit of adventure — whether that hiking in the great outdoors or going for a boujee weekend away.

I prefer someone who is career driven and ambitious — I’m recently self-employed and spend a lot of time working, and am looking for someone who respects and understands that (but who may also give me some guidance and rules when I forget to look after myself!).

It’s really important to me to get to know someone before embarking on anything physical. Ultimately, I’m looking to build towards a long-term, IRL relationship with rules, structure, and lots of sex, alongside a fulfilling life with friendship, respect and laughter at the centre.

Thank you for taking the time to read this essay! If this sounds like something you’d be interested in, I’d love to hear from you — and please let me know somewhere in your message if you’re a dog or a cat person, so I know you’ve made it to the end ;)