I almost struck gold here on Reddit so I am once again asking you for your support in fulfilling my friendly, kinky, and romantic desires on a fairly consistent basis. Toys, personal joys, and strictly good boys are good and all, but that just isn’t cutting it these days for switchy me. I’ve had good success here before even if it didn't work out, so I’m hoping lightening will strike twice for me. Anywho, on to the important stuff!

I’m going to talk about what I’m looking for to keep you from being potentially disappointed by the end of reading my post if it turns out we're not a good fit for one another (because I know you and I know you’re a lovely guy who took the time to read my not so lovely word vomit). With that in mind, I’m looking for a switch for an actual in-person relationship that incorporates kink and BDSM. I’m not interested in online only relationships. Yes, they work for some, but I wanna touch all over you and I can’t do that through a screen. I can host and am fortunate enough to have the means to travel a bit if that doesn’t work. Beyond that, I want someone who finds joy in tasks, learning, teasing, comforting, pushing, laughing, and leaving each other’s bodies bruised and lovingly used. I also want someone who likes their kink to be fun, silly, and filled with laughter and honesty. Outside of kink, while I do want you to have a life outside of me, I hope you like going on yearly trips, all sorts of conversations, binge watching shows while we drink tea or hot chocolate, trying new and random things together, and genuinely enjoying each other’s presence. A crazy big ask, I know. Lastly, if you do respond to this post, men who put effort into their response make it to the front of the line.

Because I like lists and feel some base requirements are in order, these are the proverbial boxes you need to check off before messaging me.

• Single
• Monogamous
• Sub Leaning Switch, Switch, or Service Top
• Age 29-41
• Any race
• Well groomed
• Childless (but maybe wants some future little ones)
• Looking for an in-person, long term relationship
• Gainfully employed (blue collar, white collar, I don't care)
• Practices R.A.C.K. – meaning you actually research the dangers, consider the context of your actions, and make an informed decision based on your findings and discussion with your partner even if that means not performing an action your partner wants to perform because you don’t feel it can be safely executed

Please note: I am NOT looking for anyone currently in a relationship or an entanglement, men who post in the affair/naughtyfromneglect subs, 24/7 TPE, master-slave dynamics, raceplay, or any sort of cuck play.

Who I am can be summed up by the fact that I still throw the peace sign up in my photos (it’s an unshakable habit). In all semi-seriousness I’m black/African-American, fluffy, small boobed with a big butt, and pretty sweet. I tend to be nurturing in whatever role I’m in. I want to make sure you’re taken care of and fulfilled. I live for eliciting sexy reactions from my partner. I’m (not too) ashamed to say that I get turned on when you’re intensely concentrated on something you enjoy because I want that look directed at me, but I will try my best not to distract you. 😇 Outside of kink, I enjoy trying new recipes and failing to save the good ones, getting my monthly massage, DIYing things with pretty good results, hanging with friends, staying in on rainy days, sitting on porches to watch storms, breakfast at noon, and my cutie pie cat. All of these things are me, but it takes a while for me to open up and share myself freely. I care deeply, but if you’re looking for someone who wears their emotions on their sleeve, you should probably look elsewhere. There’s a lot more, but I’ll leave it here.

And with this, our time has come to a temporary close. I appreciate everyone who has taken the time to read this and hopefully some of it has resonated with you. If so, please reach out and put some effort into the response! If not, no hard feelings and good luck on your search! If my post is still up, I'm still looking.

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