This is me

You know how people say it's about the journey, not the destination, strangely it's true. I've been trying to find a submissive for a little while now, there have been a few successes, and a few failures. But in spite of each, I have had the opportunity to talk to just the most amazing women, they are intelligent, funny, charming, and sweetest people I've had the good fortune to ever meet.

With that said, this part is about me so I'll begin by saying I am in my 40's, and I've been a Dominant since I was in my early 20's. I've been in vanilla relationships, sexual submissive type relationships, online D/s relationships, and full 24/7 lifestyle relationships. I've seen a lot of things, and experienced a quite a bit.

As for my method for doing this, it's like this, I like talking, I like getting to know my potential submissive first, before anything happens between us. Just two people talking, and getting to know each other. My hope during this period is that is we plant the seed for trust, mutual understanding, and lay a strong stable foundation for us to build the relationship on.

With that said, I don't want to give you only the impression that I'm just a sweet nice guy, I am but, make no mistake about my intentions towards you. I want you, I want you to belong to me, and only me, I want to have you, and control you. I want to condition you to the point that when you think about me, it makes you wet, I want to give you such amazing, and powerful orgasms that everyone after me is left wanting in comparison.

Who you are

You are intelligent, funny, strong, independent, patient, and giving. It is alright if you have very little, or a lot of experience in being a submissive. I only ask that you approach this with an open, and willing heart and mind.

You have to want this, I can't want this for you, you have to be willing to put the time in getting to know me, and each other. You have to be open to yourself, and to the experience. You have to be sure to be sure that this is something you really want to explore, as sometimes it can get a little dark when your desires run in those directions.

I will not judge you, I will never make you feel bad for wanting to experience them, in fact I will encourage you to embrace them, and make them a part of yourself, as opposed to the thing you are embarrassed to admit to yourself. Primarily I want this to be a freeing experience, you lose your inhibitions, and embrace the person you truly are underneath all the bullshit society has made you feel about yourself.

What my kinks are, and what you should expect

I love giving my submissive tasks, they can range from touching yourself, to going about your day with no panties on and a toy inside you.

I love light pain, primarily this is sexual for me, I find the contrasting sensation of pleasure, and pain to be distracting, and I love listening/watching my submissive struggle with both.

I love orgasm control, the moment you submit to me is the moment your orgasms cease to be yours, they are mine to be controlled, and extracted from you when I want.

I love toys, and you will be using them on yourself for me, we will have a conversation about the toys you do own, and we will add to them or talk about how you will be using them for me. You will be filled, fucked, and made to cum for me until I am satisfied you've been sufficiently used.

I love pictures, and movies, now I know this is a major issue and requires so much trust. I will never ask for a picture of your face and your nude body in the shot, you can retain your anonymity, and I would never violate the trust you've given me.

My hard limits

I'm not into scat, not at all, if that is something you want to experience, I hate to disappoint you but I will not be sharing this with you.

I'm not looking to scar you, or maim you in any manner, I'm not opposed to pain but no permanent damage.

I'm not interested in vomit play at all in any capacity, I'll be honest I find it revolting, didn't even know that was a thing.

In closing

You might be a quiet, unassuming person in her 20's or 30's just living your life, loving your family, enjoying your hobbies and work. But something is missing, you've had dreams about it, you've fantasized about it, but in your waking mind you are afraid to actually to say that you want to be taken, that you want to be owned by someone, that you want to be to be punished, and made to serve.

I understand it's scary, you start thinking about it, and then you have to start coming to terms with how far it goes within you, and how very much you want this, on the verge of needing it.

How this begins is with a conversation, like people, we will talk, we will get to know one another, and things will progress from there. So don't be afraid, take the chance, share yourself with me, and give yourself the opportunity to experience something you've been wanting for so long.