Hey BDSMpersonal People,

This is defiantly not written for anyone, just for a small part of the submissive girls out there, the very submissive ones that like to please a Dom, aiming at the target to find a #online relationship that is as close to a real 24/7 one as possible. Slow build up of emotional connection and to build sexual tension.

Primarily we should start a way to find that out is to talk about the D/s that should be a big part. But we will only talk about it and don't rush into any D/s dynamic for the first few days. A slow build up is necessary. Your wish should be a strong bond and a long-term connection. As we are probably thousand miles away from each other this is meant to be #online for a longer time, but my far goal would be a long lasting and loving special relationship. If that bond is so strong and lasts for a longer time, it is not questioned that we want to see each other in person, i think.

I can't promise that it will go that far, just as I don't expect you to promise to achieve this strong bond. Only time will tell. We can have fun and be fulfilled if it's "only" online. I had online relationships that were better then real ones. For me, this is a bond that exists on a connection between brains & feelings and not between bodies.

About me:

I am 48 and from Germany. Green-grey eyes, a beard and light blond hair. I am not really religious. I'm introverted and calm, dominant my whole life. In my free time, I like to watch series, play games and watch movies. Talk with people, hear music and like to learn things through tech & Science podcasts, read (or better listen) to audiobooks. English isn't my first language but I believe i speak it fluently.

Sexually, I am a dominant-daddy-teacher guy. I need a good emotional connection with a person I dominate. Into the D/s since I live. Had a hand full of relationships over the last 25 years. So not that much but I consider myself as very experienced because they were all very intense. I don't start a relationship if there are too many compromises, but a few are okay. If you sometimes need an "outside world" and be treated as an equal, this is also guaranteed as aftercare is. I want it to be a 24/7 but it should be realistically. Work & Family should not suffer or be negatively affected. We will talk about all the kinky stuff and the most passionate thing I have in my whole life is my "world". The thing that I want to live with someone in private. Our secret that never should ever known by others. So we should be a lucky couple for others, bot no one should know how special we are inside.

It is important that we are on the same level when it comes to humor. If we have different views on things, we should explain and argue, but not deny the other person their opinion. This should take place at eye level. I do not accept racism, you can't convince me of things like healing stones or esoteric or homeopathy. I am a scientifically minded person who can only be convinced by studies and good arguments.

About you:

You should agree to the most things above, then I will like you anyways. You should want to call me daddy, somehow see me as one too, in a kinky way. That would be a good basis. You should also be very submissive and want to give me a lot of control over you and your body. You should want to be aroused and get horny just by doing my tasks, fulfilling my wishes and live 24/7 with the rules I apply. The rituals that should be done daily should give you a good feeling.

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MY 2 DEALBREAKERS: About living it secretly and pictures

I want to live this kind of relationship and its kinky core with you and no one else. Even if we are a couple over distance, everyone can know that we are, your and my friends and family, but they should not know that it has this special D/s dynamic. It's not that I don't want to have my "outing". I just love love love the secret thing and that we are the only 2 person that live that kind of thing with our conditions that makes it unique in the whole world. And nobody knows. I am not at all interested in dressing you like a slut for the outside world. If I want you to dress and be my own slut then I will do it with you in private and just for me. Even if you do things in public for me, it's just for me and should be safe and hidden from other eyes.

Nudes were the most misunderstanding thing in my past conversations with subs and a dealbreaker very often. I try to explain why i need nudes at some point. Like our voices it's necessary to see you at some point. It's part of my dominance to "use" your body for my pleasure. And you should not see that as a negative condition you have to give to go any further with me. You should love this way to pleasure me with them. They can be without any face for a long time to keep you safe until you trust me to send your face too. And I like the power imbalance to do not show nudes from my side. But at some time you will also see me as we start to video call to see and hear in combination. Again, its not that I just want jerk off material - I have that if I open a browser and type in XXX. If you had bad experiences with it... you should not blame me for that and see it realistic. As long as you don't show your face its not dangerous, if you don't give me your full name or address, nothing will happen. Even if I would lie and be totally evil.

Therefore give in your pictures and hold back your personal information and face until you feel safe and we are fine. I try to tell you that you should want me to want your nudes at some time, if you shy away from it at the beginning, that's totally fine. Gain trust and if you are really submissive, you will offer me the option to see you at some point.

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If you read my post and think, oh... most of it was great but this one point I don't get. Just ask if its important, I know that some compromises are necessary and it is part of every relationship to find solutions. But you should at least be happy with most of my opinions, otherwise we wont fit.

In my profile you can find other search posts, a kink list and some roleplay posts to learn more about me, but you can also just open a chat or send me a message.

Greetings

Mike