Hello! After lurking on here for months I've decided to gain the courage to make a post. I'll be honest, I'm a little embarrassed to do this, but I feel like what I'm looking for kink and relationship-wise is a little specific and I haven't had much luck on Hinge, Bumble, or Feeld. I also got banned from Tinder like 4 years ago, fun fact 😂

A few things before starting! These are HARD requirements for me and I want to make them very clear so as to not waste anyone's time. If there are things you need clarification on, I'm happy to chat.

1) I am queer, genderfluid (AFAB and fem-presenting most days), and polyamorous, specifically a relationship anarchist. However, I am only looking for ONE Dominant to enter into a dynamic with, and I would prefer a Dominant that does not have other submissives. My ideal version of polyamory is having a consistent 24/7 dynamic with a Dominant, while any other partners I have would be less kink-heavy, or just a vanilla relationship entirely.

2) PLEASE do not message me if you need to keep things private or discreet. I do not condone cheating of any form and have been cheated on in the past. There must be clear communication from all partners.

3) I will only enter a D/s dynamic with someone who is emotionally ready for a committed relationship. I cannot separate kink and romance. To those who can, more power to you, but for me, romantic feelings need to be involved. We don't need to rush into things, and in fact I want the exact opposite.

If these things sounds okay with you, feel free to continue reading!

A little bit about me:

I'm 29 years old and have been living in NYC for the last 4 years. I have a very successful career in healthcare and would consider myself to be "hyper-independent", even since childhood. In most of my relationships and daily life, I have been the one providing or doing most of the effort, and I would really like for someone to take the reigns from me for once. While I am somewhat experienced in kink, I can't say that my experiences have been great for the most part, and I'd really like to find that Dominant that I can completely surrender to and not be afraid to be my true self around. I am in no rush to enter a dynamic with someone, and I really want to emphasize that an emotional connection is just as important as a sexual one. If we can't hang out and get to know each other without intimacy involved, I'm not interested.

When I'm not working, I am either traveling domestically or internationally, and I would love to meet someone who prioritizes traveling just as much as I do. I'm also INSANELY nerdy. I'm a huge film buff and go to the theaters multiple times a month, though I'm not so much into TV series. I love fantasy novels, art books/museums, video games (currently am replaying Elden Ring in time for the new DLC), a little bit of anime/manga, and I'm absolutely obsessed with horror!! Alien is one of my favorite films of all time. I am also the proud owner of two chinchillas and plan to adopt more in the future.

I'm happy to send pictures if we end up getting along (and relatively soon, I don't want to waste time), but if you're curious, I'm white, 5'2" with short brown hair, blue eyes, lots of tattoos, and plenty of curves. I'm a former varsity athlete, so while the muscle definition isn't as strong as it used to be, my figure is still absolutely rocking! I honestly consider myself to be very hot, not to toot my own horn or sound overly cocky. 😅 While I'm not super fit, I have a cute little tummy, huge tits, and an even bigger ass, and I love to dress up! I also consider myself fairly active! I walk a lot in NYC and love the outdoors, especially now that the weather is starting to get nice again. But I also love food just as much ☺️

Of note, I do not shave at all, and have not shaved for years. I love my natural body hair, and I love it when my partners do the same. If this bothers you, please don't bother with me! For me, the hairier the better. I love me a big bear. 😈 All bodies and genders welcome, though I will say I am not super into femboys/twinks/etc and when it comes to men I love super hairy and big dudes, whether it's muscle or fat (or both!). Women and enbies, you have my heart, and I would love to meet with more queer folk in the kink and poly scene, even if we end up not hitting it off.

At the moment I'm only looking for those in NYC or who don't mind traveling to me. It would need to be a really, really strong relationship for me to consider something online/LDR.

And lastly, a little bit of kink!

First and foremost, if you have a huge dick? I want it. Some of my toys are as thick as soda cans, so I can take a pretty hefty size! I also love big fingers and size differences in general. I'd love to explore primal play and being hunted down/chased.

I'm really, really into impact play, mostly with hands. Face slapping, pussy slapping, being spanked until I'm black and blue, it's all good. I want a Dom whom I can feel safe enough to test the limits of my pain with, in whatever form that is. I see pain as a form of worship to my Dom in a sense? Like the thought of being spanked until I'm bruised doesn't scare me at all. Things like canes and paddles? Punishments, absolutely, but I turn into a puddle of mush under strong, confident hands.

My ideal version of a power exchange would be something where I have control over major changes in my life like job, health, etc, but am open to guidance and discussion. I'm not looking to be micromanaged in the sense I want to be told when I can use the bathroom or eat, but I love the idea of having rituals and routines and being rewarded based on that. Or even amplifying simple servitudes by making it a requirement that I make your morning coffee/tea while completely bare. I really just am a service sub that likes to be slapped around!! But I also gotta keep my Dom on their toes every now and then and be bratty. Because making Doms angry can be fun sometimes. ☺️ (I do have a strap and am happy to switch if you ever want a brief break.)

Some other things off the top of my head: collars/collaring ceremonies, breeding/creampies, anal play, choking, hair pulling, humiliation and degradation, watersports, calling my Dominant "Sir" or "Daddy", orgasm control/denial, edging, bondage/restraints, sensory deprivation, cock warming/cock nursing, and many, many others.

Limits: scat, any sort of Master/slave terminology, diapers/ageplay, human furniture, being told to lick someone's shoes or lick things off the floor, knives/needles, permanent branding/markings

If you made it this far, thank you!! I hope you enjoyed it, even if I might not entirely be your cup of tea. If you ARE interested, however, please feel free to DM/chat, and somewhere in your message let me know what your favorite movie is, OR let me know your dream vacation.

Looking forward to chatting!