hey all :) experienced s-type looking for d-type, with the occasional switchy situation! I have a FL profile with more about me if we connect first. I identify as demisexual, which is why friendship has to come first! I’ve been in both monog and poly relationships and have found both work for me in different ways and depending on the person.

I’m an AFAB nonbinary person who presents generally femme. my kinks include bondage and restraints, impact play, domestic discipline or TPE, CNC, sensory deprivation, and orgasm control. there are others of course, but those are a start. I haven’t actually tried petplay, but it’s something I’m very much interested in and want to try—preferably the softer side of things first, rather than eating of a bowl on the floor, as I’m a cuddly kitten by nature. as a sub, I like to please, and I like praise, but not degradation or humiliation. I have a few bratty tendencies, but my former domme can attest to the fact that I’m a lot sweeter and eager to please than I am bratty. I’ve also got some little habits — I love stuffed animals and animated movies, for example. sometimes I do switch, especially for the right partner, although I’m never going to be a domme, although I’m never going to be a mean domme. when it comes to partners, I highly prefer women, nonbinary and trans folks, and have rarely been attracted to cis men. I’m a lot pickier with cis guys, but you’re welcome to shoot your shot.

outside of kink is the more important part to me, honestly. I need to know, like and get along with someone before sexual attraction or intimacy. although I’m interested in and I’ve been in a 24/7 dynamic, I’m not interested in someone controlling my life for the sake of it or trying to make important decisions for me. good dominants respect their subs (and their lives), in my opinion. I have a life outside of kink — I’m an avid choir nerd and a professional musician in my spare time, and a lawyer the rest of the time. I’m rarely submissive in public: I’m an overachiever and have goals and ambition. that being said, I’m not always this serious. I like video games, Marvel comics and the MCU, stuffed animals, and collecting indie silicone dildos and squishies. I’m also a furry, though it’s not a huge part of my life. although I identify as nonbinary, I present as pretty feminine! paint my nails, wear heels and dresses, that kinda thing.

physically I’m 5’1” and Asian Canadian, on the chubby side (thanks covid). recently I’ve started swimming again to try and get active, and I could always use some friendly motivation on that front. my former domme never had any issue picking me up and tossing me around though if that appeals to anybody ;)

so with all that… please send me a message! I’m in western Canada and not interested in relocating because my family and career plans are here, but long distance has never bothered me if it’s temporary and if there are plans to change that. I’m not terribly interested in just an online dynamic in the long run, and would prefer something with the opportunity for irl meetings or something more permanent. that being said, I’m also open to making friends of course. :)