Hello. I am a 33 year old Dom seeking a submissive for a somewhat casual, but consistent power-exchange. This would typically only apply when you are at my house, unless we agree otherwise. After we have met and decide we want to move forward, we will establish and agree upon what control you would like to give up, and while you are at my house you will be in submissive/pet/slave mode. If this interests you, read on and if you're still interested by the end, I would love to hear from you.

About Me: I am a white, male Dominant. I am 6'3”, about 175 lbs, with a lean build. Not much muscle but I am working on it. I have short brown hair, brown eyes, and wear glasses. I consider myself on the handsome side of nerdy. I have over 10 years experience, off and on, in the lifestyle, mostly revolving around training and scenes as opposed to a 24/7 dynamic. I have experience in impact play, bondage (cuffs more so than rope), sensory play, orgasm control/denial, wardrobe control, weekly rules, threesomes, pet play, CnC, and choking, among other things.

As a Dom, I am primarily a Pleasure Dom or Soft Dom. In the past I have often let my interests take a backseat to the pleasure and exploration my submissive is interested in. While I am still happy to indulge my submissive, I am trying this time around to focus a little more on my interests and take a little more control of the situation. Not strict, but I'd like to be a little more firm and decisive.

Limits: I do not engage in anything illegal that will get us arrested, blood play, vomit play, scat, hard impact play that results in severe bruising, no permanent scarring, hooks, knife play, age play, or being called “Daddy.”

--This is important: For now, I will also add that I am not looking for any CnC scenes to start. If we click well and work together long enough it's an option, but it's a soft limit at the beginning. I'm not looking for that level of intensity and dark head space right now. I would like to build something more positive and encouraging to start.

What I am Looking For: I will be upfront and honest: I am not looking for a forever slave. Unfortunately, there are circumstances in place where I will be making a big move to my next stage of life in around 3 years. I am not opposed to figuring things out if we last that long and want to move closer, but I want to be exceptionally clear and set the expectation that nothing will stop this big move. I am pursuing a dream that will take me out of the country.

Until then: I'd like something consistent. It can be casual, it can be a little serious, but the important thing is some level of reliability. Once a week would be the sweet spot, but I'm open to more, or less. I will say any less than twice a month will not work for me. I want someone who is as likely to text me and request time together as I am to text them, if not even a little more so. I don't need a TPE, but to be given more control over things while you are in my house, such as what you are wearing, or not, and what you will be doing is what I am looking for. I'll provide a few specific examples below.

While I am looking for a strong power-exchange during our play sessions, I am not looking to micromanage or be demanding outside of our play. If I ask, you are free to say no or that you are busy. It's once you have agreed to the session that I want the more total control (within reason, not looking to decide when you can go the bathroom). If we get along well and enjoy our play, and decide we want more from it, we can have that conversation down the line but I do not want to start with any expectation beyond our play sessions. To that end: I do not care if you are poly or monogamous, I do not care if you have a relationship or not, I am open to someone who is entirely new to BDSM, as well as someone who has plenty of experience. The only thing I care about is consent. If your boyfriend knows you're experimenting, great. If you are cheating behind his back, I don't want to be involved.

In terms of my primary interests and focus: I like wardrobe control. I like choosing what you will wear before you come over (typically with you providing me two or three options since I am not looking to actually control your wardrobe, just choose from your wardrobe), and yes sometimes I will require you to be naked for the entire evening, even if we're just watching a movie. Along the same lines, I am big on skin-on-skin contact. Pets, naked cuddling, little touches, all of it is a big, non-penetrative kink for me. I also would like to engage in a free use fantasy to be discussed during our sessions, but that one is not a requirement.

I am curious to explore Shibari tying (possibly take a class together) as well as having a maid (though I doubt much cleaning would get done...) or pet who sits on the floor in her collar, but these are not required and only if they interest my sub. I have a few other interests but I like to leave some mystery for our discussions. The only ones that I will require are wardrobe control and naked cuddling. The others are negotiable.

P.S. If you are petite, I might be interested in some manhandling and primal play to be discussed.

Example Evenings:

1: We've agreed to meet up, and you text me to confirm the time as well as provide me with three outfits to choose from. One is conservative, one is comfortable, and one is slutty. I choose the comfortable for you to wear, and you head on over. I already have dinner ordered/prepared when you arrive, and no sooner do you step through the door than do I tell you to strip for me. You comply, nervous, and stand naked until I approach and put your collar on. We eat dinner, talking normally, and then we sit on the couch for a movie night, where my hands roam and play until I've teased both of us too much that it leads to a scene in the bedroom.

2: You are lonely one evening, and text hoping that I'm free to see you. I'm busy, so you pout, but you start to tease. You send a few photos, articles of clothing being removed as you try to beg and plead for me to play with my sub. When I accept, I tell you to drive over wearing only a robe or large coat. Nervous, you agree, but you speed over, eager to get to my place. You arrive to find the bed already set up with restraints, and I strap you down to punish you for teasing me until I canceled my plans—even though we both know it'll be a much more enjoyable evening now.

3: You arrive on a night we've agreed to hang out, in a cute outfit I chose for you. You enter, half expecting me to command you to strip as soon as you arrive, but I don't. I greet you, we talk and chat, probably eat dinner, and then we sit on the couch where I load up a game for us to play, something like Super Smash Brothers or some other co-op game. We play, laugh, and just have a generally enjoyable evening. This might also apply where you would be naked for the evening, but sex may not always happen (this can be discussed if we would prefer our meetings to always be sexual or not).

And finally the part nobody likes...

Requirements: Note that I am not flexible on any of these. You must be between the ages of 21 and 35. You must be assigned female at birth, you must be drug and disease free (weed is acceptable but I do not allow smoking in my house), and you must be between a petite to average body weight, no one overweight. I work to stay in shape and improve my body and I'm looking for the same. And finally, you must be local-ish. I would prefer someone in the Denver metro area, but I'll accept anyone from up to Fort Collins and down to Colorado Springs—it's an easy drive, plus I can host.

If you are still interested: fantastic. I would love to hear from you and start talking more. Below I have provided a short little profile/questionnaire. Please fill it out as your first message to me, to help make things a little easier.

Name: (Preferred name or nickname is fine)

Age:

Brief Physical Description: (or a sfw picture if you'd like)

Kinks:

Limits:

Which of my example evenings did you like, and why?

BONUS: A small bonus. If you speak Japanese, are a big gamer (i.e. would love to play something like Baldur's Gate or a deep board game like Gloomhaven), are a petite body type, or have a natural bush, you may break my age requirement by a few years (Hard limit of 18-39).