This post will be aimed towards subby ladies, ideally around ages 21-35 or so, who are hoping to build what would eventually be a long-term kinky dynamic with an experienced, emotionally intelligent, Dominant that can lead in all aspects of a relationship. If concepts like a '1950s household', 'TPE', and common-sense communication when it comes to BDSM are things you think you're interested in, and you're hoping to find a Dom that can dish out pain, pleasure, praise, and punishment with the best of them, while keeping you safe and satisfied at the same time, then read on!

About myself: I'm a 30 year old American, standing 6 feet tall barefoot (most people guess I'm taller than that), solid frame and shoulders with a razor-shaved head, beard, and pale blue eyes. I've got plenty of experience in kinky things by now, both in real life and online, from casual play-partners to full-on power-exhange dynamics with a solid amount of rules and structure, et cetera.

I definitely have a pleasure-Dom side to me, and I enjoy dishing out all sorts of sensations to my partners during play-sessions. I know what I'm doing, but I also know how to read my partner and listen to her wants and needs in bed, while making sure the safeword is in place and limits are respected. That being said, I get off hardest on the power-exchange aspect of a kinky dynamic, and my eventual goal is to find a partner that's my sub inside and outside of the bedroom. Obviously it takes a ton of time to really build up a 24/7 dynamic that works for both partners, but that is my eventual goal. Everything starts somewhere though.

Outside of BDSM, I'd say I'm pretty 'typical' in a lot of ways for your average Midwestern American. I have a reasonably solid career in manufacturing management going on, and a good enough college-degree that I've got plenty of options open. I still have enough of a blue-collar streak in me though, and I never mind getting my hands dirty. Beyond that, I'm a homeowner and a personal finance nerd, and my only debt on the books is my mortgage payment, which is practically nothing compared to what rent prices are doing these days.

I tend to have a lot going on in general, but lately biggest hobby these days is podcasting, and I've been running a regular show with a close buddy of mine since 2020. Podcasting is probably the most tech-savvy thing about me though, as I'm much more drawn to the outdoors these days. I also love reading, writing, sports, tabletop games, just to name a few hobbies of mine. I'm very rarely bored. I also have a huge sense of humor and I've been described as very down-to-earth and relatable in general.

In a partner, I'm looking for my submissive half. I'm looking for someone I can grow with and for, just as much as someone I can teach, train, guide, care for, and enjoy. I'm not opposed to subs that have a bratty side, nor am I opposed to a little DD/lg with the right partner, but more than anything I want a partner that sees herself as firmly submissive, as well as someone that wants to offer me back service-based submission. I believe that submission is something that needs to be earned consistently by a Dominant, and I never anticipate the process to grow quickly.

I don't really mind what kind of experience you have with BDSM and kink, but I must preface by saying that I intend to be patient early on in that regard, especially when it comes to inexperienced subs. That being said, if you are reasonably experienced and can prove that you understand the safety aspects of it all, then I'm open to taking the training wheels off a little earlier. Just depends on what kind of chemistry and trust develops.

I see the whole '1950s traditional relationship' style of dynamic as almost ideal to me, and I'd love to find a partner who would enjoy that type of thing, even if it isn't always the most practical. Eventually, I think 24/7 TPE Master/slave dynamic is what I'm after so long as I can find the right partner. Obviously there's a ton of work that gets into building this, but I think it can work wonders with the right people.

When it comes to my small list of requirements for my partner, I think the most important at this point is I'm hoping to find someone that's reasonably healthy/health conscious. I'm not perfect, and I don't expect perfect back, but eating healthy and being active are quickly becoming major priorities for me. If BBW is a term you use to describe yourself with, we probably won't be the best fit. I'm no chef in the kitchen, so if you can cook a little bit, bonus points!

I'm apparently a little bit of a neat-freak as well, and while I certainly am not perfect on that end either, I won't co-exist well with slobs. I would prefer to spend my time doing yardwork to folding laundry and doing dishes though, although I'm certainly not above taking care of household chores either.

Finally, I'm hoping go find someone that can handle me and my value system. I'm a very family-oriented person, but I'm also incredibly independent. I like solving problems on my own, and being responsible for my own means of existence and happiness. That being said, within the confines of a relationship and a dynamic, protecting and caring for my sub would remain the top priority. Once you decide to submit to me and serve me, I want to do everything I can to put you in the best position to be your best and happiest self.

If you made it through that novel of a post, congrats! And if you're still interested in getting to know me more, please send me a message or a chat! I've met a lot of people through this subreddit over the years, made a few friends, had a few more dynamics develop from here, both online and in-person, but I'm still looking for my perfect match. If we do hit it off, I'm open to exchanging pictures, moving to different forms of communication, et cetera. And if and when we did hit the point where we both wanted to meet up, I can travel and I can host as well!

Thank you for taking the time to read my post, and I hope to hear from you!