To me, being a dom is rewarding far beyond just sexual gratification. In fact, me physically getting off is often secondary. First and foremost, that dom space nourishes my mind and soul. It gives me a sense of presense- where I can exist more fully in the moment than perhaps any other time in my life. It gives me a feeling of control- when there's so much in the world completely out of my control. It gives me a passage to my primal self- where I can explore and learn what's always been inside me.
That said, I can't get to that space with just anyone- regardless of how willfully they submit. I need connection. I need mental attraction. I need a friend. I need to care.
If I am to categorize myself, I'm definitely more of a pleasure dom. I much rather make you cum (agonizingly) too much than not enough. The power and satisfaction of making my sub feel heights of pleasure is like no other. That said, what's pleasure without some pain? Contrast is key. It's like sea salt on chocolate- you appreciate the sweetness so much more that way. I'm no sadist, though. I typically don't dish out pain for its own sake. But of course, sometimes lessons do need to be learned... and behavior needs to be corrected. Because it's for your own good, girl.
So yeah. That's why I'm here.
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