I’m trying this again… I’ve posted twice and met some nice people. But not my person. Not yet, at least.

I used to be heavily involved in this community, like trained under a very reputable/professional Dom but took a break to prioritize motherhood. I haven’t had a Dom in over a decade which I *think* means I need WD-40 or something. But I am eager to please and willing to retrain. It’s like riding a bicycle, right? Or am I the bicycle? I'm not sure how that saying goes.

More about me... I'm a 40 y/o executive assistant. A people-pleaser in all aspects of my life. I like gaming, music, reading, and baking. Essentially, I am a skittish introvert. I’m caucasian, blue-eyed, brunette, tall(5’11”), and plus sized(Over 350lbs)- with a large tummy and ass. No, I will not immediately send you nudes. I know my body type is a fetish and while attraction is essential in any relationship, I don’t want my weight to be the cornerstone of connection.

As for what I like?? A soft/Daddy-type Dom in the day-to-day. I love caring for and nurturing; I am looking for the same in return. My vanilla self is what one might consider an Alpha female, at least that's the perception of people around me. On that note, handing over control, and being a subservient good girl makes my toes curl and helps me turn off my brain. Sometimes outside of playtime, I need a little extra guidance and help with personal decisions during the day. I can be easily overwhelmed and having a Dom provide structure and instruction makes me thrive. I love the security and protection in the word “mine”.

The right Dom for me, would be mature with emotional intelligence and stability. I am looking to build trust and grow in a relationship. Age is just a number but I think I would have a hard time taking someone still living with their parents seriously. I think 30 would be best.

I like banter, intelligence, wit. I can be bratty, but I am ultimately submissive and very subservient when the relationship is fostered. My quickness to obedience can come from a heavy hand but full submission is earned via trust. I’m in need of a Dom that radiates power but exercises patience. Who demands compliance without being cruel. That would 10/10 put me on my knees.

Monogamy is my jam and while I respect ENM relationships and couples, I’m not looking to share. So, if you're in a relationship, whether it's ethical, complicated, or not… Please just don’t waste your time or mine. 

Hard limits: Scat, watersports, humiliation (which is a huge umbrella, so we can talk about it, cause its not all of it.), breast torture, necrophilia, incest, pretty much anything illegal or immoral. 

Turns-offs: Lying, Poor hygiene, body shaming.

Turn-ons: Primal play- I love to be bit, marked, hunted down, and taken—unapologetically rutted. Intimacy, pain, CNC, sleep play are *chefs kiss*.

If any of this seems like a good fit for you, send me a message. I want to stress that genuine connection, respect, and honesty are a must. In the whole two weeks I’ve been back in this community it seems like people use the lifestyle as a scapegoat to be unfaithful and have casual sex… and not to yuck anyone’s yum but I’m looking for something a bit deeper than that. ;) 

Thanks for reading.

== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
98% Submissive
94% Brat
88% Rope bunny
86% Primal (Prey)
70% Mashochist
67% Slave
56% Degradee
43% Vanilla
23% Pet