I am seeking a real life, in-person (not online or video-only), monogamous LTR (ideally my last) with “my person,” for what can eventually become a cohabitating 27/7(ish) D/s dynamic (so involving more than just kink). Essentially, I’m looking for my final Dominant and life partner. I am unable to relocate.

Disclaimers! Please note I’m NOT interested in any of the following: Sexting/kinky DMs, online or phone-based play or “relationships,” threesomes/polycules, “Soft Doms” or “Hypno Doms,” anyone under 46, FWB/play partners/casual/NSA, switches, bedroom-only Dominants, bi/heteroflexible men, Dommes, newbies or people looking to learn, smokers, folks outside the United States, or anyone sneaking around on an unknowing partner.

About me: Professional career woman, parent (one teen), well-educated, social drinker, demisexual and sapiosexual, empathetic, intuitive, snarky, attentive, kinky, conversational, devoted, and witty. I enjoy long deep talks, flirty dinners, and various shenanigans. Working on myself/personal growth because I am not perfect and don’t pretend to be. Chubby, long hair, with piercing eyes (so I’ve been told); absolutely not “fit and toned.” I identify as a submissive, not a slave, and am a solid mid-level masochist.

About my potential partner: Confident (not arrogant) and dominant (not domineering) in his daily life (a leader at work, etc.), perceptive, educated and intelligent, patient, honorable, and able to verbally express emotions and affection with ease. Clean-cut in appearance, skilled in the psychological and physical aspects of D/s, and willing to engage an open conversations (including when there is conflict to be addressed). Has space and time in his life for a relationship; my last two meaningful dynamics ended primarily because my partners were too consumed by work.

The details: Intrinsically, I crave ownership and connection in a loving relationship that focuses on the day-to-day authority transfer (most of which is non-sexual); this affects my desire to submit. Building this level of closeness takes time, patience, and consistency. Although certainly conversations will take place about D/s topics, I do not wish to jump into a dynamic; rather, I want to build the emotional and psychological connection prior to moving into power exchange. I will not engage in tasks/assignments until this has occurred.

Choosing to omit kinks here because that is not what I want to focus on. If someone leads with conversations about this, either by sharing their own kinks right off the bat or asking me sexual questions, then we’re not on the same page. 😉

There are also a couple of posts on my profile, one of which has some important information.

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