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Youâve always been in control. In control of your life, your academics, your achievements. You love winning a good argument and you bring that forward rational brain to everything you do. Itâs served you well so-far.
It is an absolute hot-mess disaster in your world of romance though. You see relationships as projects for you to succeed at. âCan I make this man into the idealized partner Iâve always dreamed of?â Is the starting point for most dates.
It hasnât worked, at all. As youâve aged, that subconscious gets a little more air. Those days when youâre ovulating and rubbing out a sweaty orgasm and running your toys batteries out, you let yourself wonder. âWhat if?â What if I just kind of gave in, had my hands tied behind my back, a blindfold on and just invited whatever came next.
Then you wipe off your toy slide the bedside drawer shut and remember your todo list.
Ugh, you want to cede control so bad, but you actively self-sabotage ever getting there. You donât know how to build the trust and rapport that would get you where you want to go. Letâs talk about things you can start doing in your daily life to ease little bits of control away. Decisions someone else makes for you. Building familiarity with the sensation of not knowing, of surrendering to the whims of another. Are you ready to practice?
Feel seen? Hit reply, even if you never do that. Todayâs the day you explore and open that part of your mind a little more.
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