First off: I am not interested in Findom or any sort of financial transactions. If you’re into that, please don’t even respond. And now that that unpleasantness is out of the way…

Hello! I’m a novice sub hoping to find the right domme to serve. I’m still pretty new to the scene, and while I’m not a completely blank canvas anymore, there is still lots of space for you to fill in and leave your own marks on me.

I’m looking for a long-term relationship with a domme who will help me grow as a submissive, but is also willing to challenge me with personal development goals that I have, and to come up with others that I haven’t thought of. I’m a service sub who enjoys pleasing others. I like getting to know people and developing relationships and cultivating emotional bonds. My own sense of devotion and loyalty compels me to push myself to put others first, and that’s the main root of my sense of fulfillment. I’m not a brat by any means, though I do have a good sense of humor that rarely (but occasionally) pushes the line. I enjoy D/s dynamics that are a bit more casual in general despite having strict expectations. I like having open communication and free-flowing dialogue - though I have the mental flexibility to effortlessly switch into a full-compliance mode as soon as a command is given - and then back again once fulfilled.

Personally, I enjoy a strict structure with clear expectations, including: personal/behavioral restrictions, having daily baseline tasks to complete and fixed routines to follow, long term objectives/goals, as well as having random directives at least occasionally to mix things up. I also really enjoy creativity (and even sadistic deviousness) on the part of a domme in the form of mind-games, subverted expectations, predicament situations, and behavioral shaping/modification. My full list of stats and preferences is listed below.

Now for the disclaimer: I am married with kids. My wife is completely vanilla and does not understand or approve of kinks. Our sex life is effectively non-existent, and emotional intimacy has been on life support for a long time. We’re pretty much together for the kids now, but she’s in denial about that too. I know that not everyone is ok with this, but this something that I need, and have repressed for over a decade until recently. So I do need to keep things discreet (out of a small amount of respect for her and to avoid a messy divorce) and I am open to discussing how that might look in reality, as my at-home privacy is limited.

Complicating matters is that I am also working or commuting for almost half the day, though I have mostly free communication in that time. I am also open to pictures, phone calls, and video once we get to know each other.

So I’m hoping to find a domme that would be willing to provide me with the structure to thrive with within these constraints, as well as enjoying mutual company chatting with and develop more than just a strictly sexual dynamic. I’d love to talk with you and get to know each other a bit first to make sure that we mesh and we can fulfill each other’s needs. Please message me if you’re interested in exploring to see if we might be compatible and meet each other’s desires.

STATS: 38 years, male, straight 5’8”, white skin, short brown hair, full coverage beard (kept well-groomed and trimmed short) Overweight (but steadily losing), with a large frame Small penis: 3.5”-4” long, 1.5” diameter while erect, and a grower

LIKES: People pleasing, Tease & Denial, Orgasm Control, Ruined Orgasms, Forced Orgasms (including multiple non-stop), Post-Orgasm Torture, Sissification/Feminization (private/concealed), Light Verbal Degradation/SPH, Cum Eating, Clothespins/Clamps, Spanking/Flogging/Caning/Crop, Predicament Situations, Erotic Mindplay and Behavioral Shaping, Creative or Manipulative Tasks, Goal-setting, Oral Sex / Facesitting, Voyeurism / Cuckolding, Limited Objectification, Praise (encouragement/coaching, rather than coddling)

DISLIKES: Immaturity / Irresponsibility / Instability (from the Domme), Uncalled for or excessive degradation / berating, Foot fetish, Smoking (others), Dishonesty Excessive coddling

SOFT LIMITS: Urine, Large/Rough Anal, Hard CBT, Hair Removal, Rimming, Wax, Diapers, Forced Porn (watching), Sounding / Urethral Insertion Choking / Breathplay

HARD LIMITS: Blood, Scat, Vomit, Anything with minors, Needles, Blades, Flame/Heat, Permanent Body Damage, Scarring, Marking, Piercing, or Modification, Public or Online Exhibition, Blasphemy / Religious play, Findom or any other financial exchange, Excessive CBT, Blackmail / Extortion, Caging/Jail, Furry/animal/pet-play, Beastiality, Ass to Mouth, Smoking/Drugs (Self and anyone involved during play)

INTERESTED (Little or No experience): Enforced Physical Chastity, Anal Plugs, Pegging, Prostate play, Bondage/Restraint, Gags, Enemas, Sensory Deprivation, Ice, Electro-play