Hi!

You can call me Elle, I'm nonbinary (afab) and my pronouns are they/them. I'm 18 (19 in ~2 weeks) and a vers switch with a sub lean, looking to explore that side more in a safe, comfortable dynamic. I'm looking for a dominant woman (or non-binary; I do also prefer afab) who is 19-24 (potentially up to 30 if we seem to be a great fit), and initially online (I'm EST, generally active in the afternoon), though definitely open to meeting, especially if you're in middle or eastern TN. I'm asexual/demisexual and looking for someone that I can be friends with and talk to about life & kink first and foremost, however would like to evolve into a long-term monogamous relationship if we work well together.

More about me:

Appearance wise, I'm pretty fem at the moment (subject to change), mid-length blonde hair (also subject to change lol), blue eyes, around 5'7 ish, and pretty thin/lanky, though hitting the gym more often is a goal of mine. Couple extra piercings (nowhere exciting, yet!) with plans to get more tattoos down the line. I also have a decent amount of body hair, so if you like girls with happy trails...

I'm a college student, but outside of that I like to game (I literally play anything, so no matter what you play I'd love to play with you, but some of my favs right now include League, Minecraft, DBD, V Rising and a lot more), read (primarily sapphic-focused literature (literally anything from lesbian feminist lit to yuri manga), though I like anything fantasy/sci-fi/mystery too), hike, and make art (currently mostly drawing/painting, some crochet, too), just to name a few. Some lifestyle stuff: very much a leftist (require similar political stance), non-religious (do not care what you practice, I love theology as well so I'm happy to talk about it in a more 'academic' sense), and am also legally blind (somewhat important if we move to IRL. I see well enough to live independently, so this won't have much effect on you necessarily, though certainly be conscientious of it. I would however prefer you to be the primary driver and occasionally read a menu or such for me, if we end up dating.)

About DMing me: I have anxiety/am autistic, so I apologize if I'm initially shy or awkward seeming. If we click well, I warm up fast. I am also an engineering student at a pretty rigorous university, so during exam seasons I may be quite busy/less active to study, but I'm generally very attentive regardless. I just ask for mindfulness.

In regards to BDSM/relationships, I'm pretty inexperienced. I have had one long-term relationship with a S&M focus, but while there were some D/s elements, it wasn't as formal/structured as what I'm looking for here. I don't expect you to teach me about BDSM beyond what you expect in our own personal dynamic, the rest is my job to educate myself on. Also important to note (for possible future reference) that I am okay being the primary/absolute submissive, but I am a vers and I don't do 100% top or 100% bottom dynamics. Again, I want this to be initially nonsexual, but can go into details about more sexual kink in DMs (I have kinklist/bdsm checklist, if you'd like that sent.) For general kinks (those which can be both nonsexual/sexual for me), I am into most kinds of authority figure roleplay (all up to you whether you're my master, goddess, queen, mommy, etc. I like these dynamics and we can talk about whatever specifics you desire, though note I'm not okay with the role/title of 'slave' for myself, anything else can be discussed), worship/praising you, praise with a little degradation for myself, and currently interested in mild primal/maybe pet play, if that's your jam. Notable hard limits include permanent harm, anything related to bathroom functions, cheating/cuck fantasies, ageplay, raceplay, extreme petplay, anything to do with feet (boots are a different story, however...), and extreme/heavy bondage. Also, I am a lesbian so absolutely no men involved with anything, period.

What I'm looking for:

As friends, its definitely a bonus if we share one of the interests above, but I do have a lot of interests outside of that, and am willing to adopt new ones! As mentioned, I may be initially kinda awkward/shy at first and you might have to take the lead, but trust me, I love to talk and want to hang out and connect in a way that is meaningful for us both. Being educated (not necessarily formally, though), well spoken, and an enjoyer of meaningful, extensive conversations are all pros to me (and can be very attractive, too. I just love verbal women... both outside and inside the bedroom). As I get to know you, I'd like to ease into a D/s dynamic. I prefer more soft/gentle doms, or doms who prefer at least some separation between play roles and our 'regular' friendship/relationship, as clear, communicated mutual care and respect and feeling like a relatively equal partner outside of D/s activities is very important to me. Initially, I'd like a more 'casual' 24/7 dynamic, as in that there are reinforced rules/control (think tasks/scheduling) but which is nonsexual (on my end, at least) and easy to integrate into everyday life. I am willing to negotiate and communicate for this to work for us both, of course. If we get past this point, I'm open to talk about advancing our dynamic further, including advancing the relationship and/or including sexual play.

I do have a little bit of a physical type, though I just love women in general so I'm not very picky. If you want to know, its a bonus if you're a woman with darker hair, have been told you have an attractive/nice voice, or lean more alternative. Again, just bonuses though and I prioritize personality over anything.

I think that's all I have for this post. Thank you for taking the time to read this. If you feel inclined to DM me, please do so with a proper intro and what your intentions/desires are (or any other questions you may have!); I will trade SFW verification / pics gladly (no NSFW).