About Me

I'm an lifestyle domme with quite a few years' experience. I currently have a 24/7 TPE dynamic with my primary sub. Dominance is a natural part of who and how I am and extends far beyond something sexual.

That said, that said, I am human, I have hobbies, and I love a good conversation.

I'll read pretty much anything. I am a terminally curious sort of person. I am yet to be bored by someone talking about something they're really passionate about - if you would like a chat, feel free to skip the small talk and tell me about something you're interested in / an expert in / just find really awesome in your first message. The more specific and obscure, the better.

When I can find the time and energy, I write assorted things (such as my blog). Do take a look at my profile if you're curious - it features various bits and pieces of my writing too.

Other than that, I have enough crafty hobbies that any visit to Hobbycraft would create serious insolvency issues. At present, I am on knitting and putting together my first Airfix model. The occasional board game doesn't hurt (I like board games, but nothing so complex that it can't be finished in one sitting), and nothing really gets me wound up like costuming inaccuracies in period dramas.

Friends

I am first and foremost looking for friends in the community, particularly whom I can meet up with in-person for coffee / dog walk / some board games, but online is okay too. I have made a couple of good friends through Reddit, but you can never have enough of those.

Dommes, subs, and anything in between welcome - really, anyone who can hold a conversation. And please do skip the small talk. My inbox really does get flooded and generic messages just get lost - tell me about about your weird hobby, a pet peeve, or your latest internet rabbit hole in your opening message instead.

Kink Things

I'm also looking for a sub or switch, male or female, who would be interested in a variety of double scenarios with my sub. I am looking to get to know someone to this end, build something of a dynamic and friendship with. I am not looking to slot someone into a pre-existing fantasy.

What I'm looking for:

• Regardless of gender, I'm looking for someone I can get on with and can form a friendship with. Engage me, interest me. Skip the small talk and tell me... Well, anything interesting. What you're passionate about, a secret, a weird hobby, a pet peeve, anything to start a conversation.
• Experience is preferred, a sense of humour is required. I absolutely love talking nonsense and a certain level of absurdism. If Terry Pratchett is your cup of tea, we will probably get on.
• Correct spelling and grammar is appreciated.
• Please be aged 20-35ish.
• Scope for irl meeting - I am not looking for online play.

I am after power exchange and control, so my exact preferences vary depending on an individual's 'buttons'. Dominance and submission are mental far more than they are physical, in my opinion.

My limits: anything illegal, scat, age play, any actively animal-like pet play, sissification.

My Kinks

D/s is reactionary, so I don't have a favourite kink / fetish. It depends on the person, the context, my mood and so on. Here's a non-exhaustive list:

• Any form of power exchange, including tasks, restrictions, rules, protocol etc
• Bondage, (especially shibari) particularly creative applications, like predicaments; gags, restraint in general
• Sensory deprivation and prolonged bondage
• Humiliation and degradation (specific to the person)
• CNC (given the appropriate degree of trust)
• Service submission

Masochism is appreciated. For those so inclined, I also enjoy:

• All forms of impact play (caning, flogging, paddling, etc)
• All manner of clamps, pegs, ziplines etc.
• Emotional sadism in all its diverse forms

(If you're a newbie male sub inclined to preface your message with 'I don't know anything about BDSM', the above section is most likely not for you.)

Voyeurs

I'd love to find a friend to discuss what I do to my sub and encourage me in writing up my exploits.

Any voyeurs with suggestions, particularly female ones, or who might be interested in some sort of live stream set are also very welcome.

(This would require getting to know you over a longer period, so really not for someone looking for quick porn).

Questions

If anyone has any kink-related questions, whether you're a newbie or a veteran with a rant to share - feel free to message me. I'm always up for an interesting conversation.

Just to pre-empt the most commonly asked question, being dominant is a part of who and how I am, it's not something I 'got into'.

Also, I don't have a favourite kink, food, board game, book... favourite anything, really. It depends on my mood, the context, and so on. Honestly, I don't get how I people can pick just one thing in any category.

Important Note

To be absolutely clear, messages which:

• address me as 'Mistress' or by any other honorific;
• are one liners or a variant on 'hey';
• ask if you can be my sub (spoiler: if you're asking, the answer is a resounding 'no');
• contain nothing of interest or which sparks a conversation (eg are a list of characteristics and kinks);
• are obvious copy / pastes;
• otherwise indicate you have not read this post in full,

will be ignored.

I'm a person and so are you, let's have a (reasonably) normal conversation.

Please use the chat. I will not reply to DMs.

If you've messaged me before and didn't get a reply, (and your message wasn't in one of the above categories), do try again - it can be difficult to keep track of my inbox sometimes :)

If your message was in one of the above categories, feel free to re-read my criteria and try again.