I’m trying this again… I posted last week and to be completely honest got a little spooked. I realized I left too much out and did a disservice to myself and you by not being more explicit. So, here is round two:

I used to be heavily involved in this community but took a break to prioritize motherhood. I haven’t had a Dom in over a decade which I think means I need WD-40 or something. But I am eager to please and willing to retrain. It’s like a bicycle, right? Or am I the bicycle? I'm not sure how that saying goes.

More about me... I'm a 40 y/o business professional. A people-pleaser in all aspects of my life. I like gaming, music, reading, and baking. Essentially, I am a skittish introvert. I’m caucasian, blue-eyed, brunette, tall(5’11”), and plus sized(Over 350lbs)- with a large tummy and ass. No, I will not immediately send you nudes. I know my body type is a fetish and while attraction is essential in any relationship, I don’t want my weight to be the cornerstone of connection.

As for what I like?? A soft Dom in the day-to-day. I love caring for and nurturing; I am looking for the same in return. I am what one might consider an Alpha female, at least that's the perception of people around me. On that note, I *do* like to turn my brain off. Scenes have always helped with that. Sometimes outside of playtime, I need a little extra guidance and help with personal decisions during the day. I can be easily overwhelmed and having a D provide structure and instruction makes me thrive. I love the security and protection in the word “mine”.

The right D for me, would be mature with emotional intelligence and stability. I am looking to build trust and grow in a relationship. Age is just a number but I think I would have a hard time taking someone still living with their parents seriously. I think 30 would be best.

I like banter, intelligence, wit. I can be bratty, but I am ultimately submissive and very subservient when the relationship is fostered. My quickness to obedience can come from a heavy hand but full submission is earned via trust. I’m in need of a D that radiates power but exercises patience. Who demands compliance without being cruel.

Monogamy is my jam and while I respect ENM relationships and couples, I’m not looking to share. So, if you're in a relationship, whether it's ethical, complicated, or not… Please just don’t waste your time or mine.

Hard limits: Scat, watersports, humiliation (which is a huge umbrella, so we can talk about it, cause its not all of it.), breast torture, necrophilia, incest, pretty much anything illegal or immoral.

Turns-offs: Lying, Poor hygiene, body shaming.

Turn-ons: Primal play- I love to be bit, marked, hunted down, and taken—unapologetically rutted. Intimacy, pain, CNC, sleep play are *chefs kiss*.

If any of this seems like a good fit for you, send me a message. I want to stress that genuine connection, respect, and honesty are a must. In the whole week I’ve been back in this community it seems like people use the lifestyle as a scapegoat to be unfaithful and have casual sex… and not to yuck anyone’s yum but I’m looking for something a bit deeper than that. ;)

Thanks for reading.

== Results from bdsmtest.org ==

98% Submissive

94% Brat

88% Rope bunny

86% Primal (Prey)

70% Mashochist

67% Slave

56% Degradee

43% Vanilla

23% Pet