I’m trying to keep up with a lot of different things during my summer break and I’ve used orgasm control as motivation in the past, it always went very well. I’m not interested in control in other aspects of my life but I do want someone else to be completely in control of when I’m allowed to cum/ruin/edge/touch and who wants to help me use that to keep good habits while i’m on break from school. I don’t want anything too demanding or time consuming, would love to chat occasionally and i’m fine with checking in and messaging when i start/finish tasks, but I want to be able to complete tasks on my own sometimes because it’s just easier to manage time that way. I’m fine with needing to be actively talking with you when i have a chance to cum or something like that but for everyday things it’s just too much for me.

Vibes wise i’d like a dom who’s strict but not unfair. My goal with this is to motivate myself to do stuff i already want to do (both the habits i’m keeping up and denial) so I don’t really want someone who’s going to try and get me to fuck up. I’ll do best with someone who’s encouraging about it but doesn’t let me get away with things. I don’t want to have my language policed though and i don’t like when a dom comes off as condescending, it’s hard for me to be comfortable around somebody when i have to worry about everything i say or if i feel like they’re just treating me like i’m stupid.

I’m bad at maintaining denial on my own but with someone else there is really all it takes to motivate me not to cave. When i’m on my own I always mean to just edge or maybe ruin it but usually i just keep going until i have a full orgasm even if i don’t want it, so i’d like to me forced to actually sit in the denial. It honestly doesn’t really occur to me to beg to cum when i need permission usually i just want to be made to keep edging or have a ruin instead.

I like being well behaved and following rules and being praised for it, you can be sure when i break a rule i’ll say so. It’s not fun for me to get away with stuff I’m doing this because i want someone to hold me accountable and keep me motivated, both with the denial and the habits i’m trying to keep

Generally speaking ruins and edges are good rewards and being put on no touch for up to a couple days/ only being allowed to touch as long as i don’t edge/ only being allowed to use my ass are all good ideas for punishments. It’s probably a good idea to have some rule on most/all days limiting how much i’m allowed to touch so that i don’t waste all my time doing that. And i don’t want to need to get special permission to put something in my ass although if i’m being punished and you want to limit it thats all fine. Other then those things I’m pretty flexible the specifics as long as I’m rewarded for keeping up with my goals and punished for falling behind or breaking rules.

I would like to be rewarded with a full orgasm every once in a while as a reset and to keep from going too crazy, to start off i don’t want to go longer then 10 days without a full orgasm so i can still think about other things but that’s open to adjustment. Honestly i’d like to work up to a full month eventually but to start i don’t want to bite off more then i can chew right to start. I think i’d like to know when my next orgasm will be, or at least my next chance for an orgasm, but if you’d like to surprise me on a whim, or add more days as a punishment, or make me ruin one as a punishment or just because you feel like it that’s all good.

I only want to do anal penetration no vaginal, and i enjoy pain but nothing which could cause lasting damage, and i enjoy impact play but i don’t like spanking my ass for some reason it just takes me out of it. Misgendering is a hard no but i’m fine with anatomical terms like clit and pussy. I don’t want to send pictures/videos to start but i’d be open to it once we’ve got used to each other as long as i can hide my face and all my tattoos.

I still have around a month of school left so it’d start off a little different because i’ll have less time and more to do, but I’d like to have a dom who i know is solid by the summer so I keep up my habits. Ideally i’d like to have someone controlling my orgasms until I start back at school again, which isn’t until early September I think.

If you’re interested and think you’d be a good fit please DM me and tell me a bit about what you’d expect from me, which things i’ve talked about interested you, and/or what you’re like as a dom, and feel free to ask me any questions as well.