Hey!

My name is Mia; I'm 23 and Dutch. This is (kind of) the first time in my life doing something like this. I have been reading this subreddit and others for ages, and I'm very excited and a bit scared about finally taking a step. I would love to meet a guy (based in NL?) for an online chat and maybe more.

Who am I?

I'm a university student in NL, currently enjoying a gap year and filling most of my days with a very demanding and high-responsibility job in the political field. I love to read (mostly Dutch literature, but right now I'm reading the complete oeuvre of Annie Ernaux, which is SO good!!!), hang out/go out with friends, take care of plants, and play Nintendo games. I'm a friendly, open-minded, and easy-going person who likes to be spontaneous. I often accidentally lose myself in political discussions with friends or strangers if I'm with someone who's also into (Dutch) politics or comparative political science. I have a slim build, I'm around 1.70m, and have blonde hair. I look like an average Dutch social sciences student hahaha. My life is pretty well-established. I've had some nice (vanilla) relationships come and go, I do well at uni, I have lovely friends and a cool job. Despite that, I feel like something's missing.....

I'm missing something.

Then what am I looking for? I am not quite sure myself. But this feels like an okay place to start exploring and figuring things out. As long as I can remember (even when I was younger), I have been interested in power differences. As a child, I always loved to play the captured innocent princess, and without knowing why, I watched the episodes of TV shows where girls (and sometimes boys) got tied up over and over again (For example: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O4NOjcev0gw) . This has carried over into (young) adulthood. Maybe it's the classic 'high-achieving woman dreams of losing control' type of fascination (which is a frame I have mixed feelings about because I feel like a stereotype whenever it's being used). Maybe it's something else. To get to the point: Now that I'm a little bit older, I often dream of a(n older) man who has more power than me. Someone who can overpower me (mentally, physically, intellectually, financially, etc.). I dream of being just a girl to a man with authority who wants me to serve him. I want to feel powerless. Make me cry. Enjoy it. Tie me up. Buy me a beautiful dress and take me out to dinner. Make me feel so, so little. Degrade me. Manipulate me. Lift me up higher than I've ever been. Guide me. Make me dependent on you. Emotionally, financially, physically. ^^^^^ That's the fantasy I have. Of course, this is a fantasy within limits of trust and consent. I think I'm going to be very cautious about that in my journey of self-discovery.

What am I looking for?

Someone to talk to about these feelings I'm having. I would love to chat with a person who understands and likes the things I've written down. I would love to talk to someone who is well-established, has authority, and is well-educated. I would like to chat first and see where things go after that. I don't think I'm looking for a long-term serious relationship (yet). If you don't recognize yourself completely in this profile but still like anything else I've written down, feel free to contact me as well! I'm very interested in any conversation regarding this topic. I don't have very strict views on gender either, so if you're a woman or any other gender and you would like to contact me, please do!!!!

Please be respectful when messaging me.

Thanks for reading this!