The title says it clearly... I am 24 years old male, I am a switch and I am looking for a play partner (sub, Dom or switch as well). More details about this in a few paragraphs. Well, actually a bit more of a few paragraphs. I hope you apreciate the accurate description :)

About me (in brief)

• I am 24 yo and I am from Italy
• I am nearly 1.80m tall, neither slim neither chubby body type (I keep myself in decent shape, but definitely not a sporty person), dark blonde/brown hair, blue eyes. I usually like to present myself well dressed and clean (prepare to see many pics of me wearing shirts).
• I consieder myself a pretty mental and deep person. I like to have meaningful one-to-one conversations about a wide variety of topics. Kinks is just the tip of the iceberg (since we meet here), but I am sure we can find many things we mutually like. I am a bit of a nerd for many things, some traditionally nerdy but many not (i.e., physicology). In a certain sense, acquiring knowledge is my main passion.
• I like to listen and understand people, even if I am not traditionally empathetic. Who knows me well describe me as cold and slighltly stubborn, but at the same time as sensitive. If you know what it means, I am an INTJ (without taking it too seriously). I lowkey hate small talk and loud places.

About me (kinkly)

Kinkly, I am a switch, I call myself mainly Dominant because It is the role in which I have the most experience and which is more coherent with my natural attitude. At the same time I have also a huge submissive side which I feel it has a lot to give (to me and to others). Just to be clear, I am capable to keep the two roles separate. If you wish to meet just the "Dom" me it's fine. If you wish to meet just the "sub" me it's fine. If you wish to meet both we can have a lot of fun :)

My main kinks, both as a Dom and as a sub are the following (here just the practices, then there is a whole section about the "approach" and the "dynamic").

• Orgasm control, edging, tease and denial: I feel I have a huge sex drive and I like if it's the same for my partner. Orgasm control to me is an excellent way to push this sex drive further and make everything more intense and pleasant.
• Spanking and hit play (paddling, whipping, etc.): as a Dom I can be a bit of a sadist, expecially if I see that pain and thrill turn you on, I will use them to please you and make you experience various mixed sensations. I love to mix a nice cocktail of pain and pleasure, because, after all, are they so different? As a sub I like to be a bit of a masochist slut and if put in the right mood I will beg for it and then also say "thank you". Anyway, I don't go for extremes (see limits).
• Other forms of pain and sensation play, like clamps, wax, ice, teasing, CBT, nipples and clit torture, etc. (to sum up, I apreciate variety and creativity)
• Bondage and restraiments
• Use of toys (currently for myself I don't have any, but I like them and probably I will buy some)
• I apreciate to give and receive oral and anal (yepp, if you dom me you can peg me and I will love it <3)

I made this, maybe it's useful: https://i.imgur.com/vSn8cqB.png

About the approach

As a Dom I am pretty gentle and caring. I love to tease you, lowkey annoy you, make jokes and "soft bully" you while I am still actually attentive and overall "gentle". Sometimes I like to switch to a more strict and mean approach, but usually it's surrounded by a great quantity of aftercare and talking (usually it is during some specific games, but if you like it we can talk about that). Someone told me I am a sort of "brat Dom", and I think that definition is funny and someway accurate. Sometimes I give "Daddy Dom" vibes, but not always. Probably if you are just a bit bratty on the surface but deeply submissive we will click very well. If you have a switch vein and/or you are assertive even as a sub I guess we can click as well. Just please don't be too passive, be open to talk and be ready to give me a lot of feedback <3

As a sub I tend to be very obedient and you will notice I will do my best to be a good boy. I am definetly not a "make me" sub, and instead you will see I will actively submit myself to you. Because of my "natural dominant" side sometimes I may seem a bit reluctant (even if actually often I am not and it may be just appearence) and sometimes I can accidentally be a bit sassy; this is something I am working on (or maybe some switchy Domme can find it funny or cute? Who knows). I still have to understand what kind of Domme I like, so I am open to know you and discover togheter what is right for me and for us. Just a thing: please be aware we are first of all two people and not just the role we play.

About scenes, I tend to be pretty "phisical" and "direct" so I tend to prefer accurate instructions and tasks over vague and generic flirting (expecially in sexting due to "not being here" limitation). In general I like when the Dom tries to "put in the sub shoes" and create experiences for him/her (at least this is what I try to do when I dominate). Even if I am pretty "mental", I don't like if the thing is only psychological.

Sometimes I like to enstablish temporary long term dynamics where roles stays (lowkey) always active and there are rules and tasks, even if I would like if occasionally we talk like regular people. In general, I like when a relationship (or anything) involves communication and open dialougue.

Limits

On the practices: extreme pain, extreme stuff in general, blood, permanent, too unsafe practices, any body liquid (except spit and cum, that instead could be added to the kinks), lack of hygene (i.e., toilet, lick dirty shoes, etc.), strong degradation and strong humiliation (expecially if "non sense" or too mean, expecially if I am the one receiving it), extreme pet play, explicit age regression

On the relationship: money, blackmail, interfere with private life or privacy, lack of consent and awarenes, sending immediately NSFW and/or face pictures (both are things that require a level of trust, especially the second one), text only (I would like we could proof each other we exist for real with pictures, audios, maybe calls, etc.), lack of reciprocity (when you pretend something from me while you don't give it yourself, pictures is a great example but not just that).

I am heterosexual and I am not interested in forced bi (on me), other guys, MTF. I am generally masculine.

If something you like is not either in the kinks and limits list or it's not clear let's talk about it!

What I am looking for

About you: be 18 or over, better if you are over 20. Be on or above legal age for your own country. I guess this will be online, so any location is okay. Of course, the closer the better. If your are in Italy it would be perfect (if we are close enough we can discuss about IRL too, but not necessarly).

As you probably understood I am looking both for subs, Dommes and switches. As I said above, I am capable to keep my "Dom" and "sub" side separate so don't worry if you are just sub or just Dom; if you found this post interesting write me however! About the type of relationship, for now what I am looking for mainly is a play partner (so FWB, casual or call it as you like). Of course, things then may evolve but I like to start easy, without big expectations. Generally, I aim for something mid-term. If we don't really click sexually but we click otherwise, we can also be just friends. In general, I hope we reach to build some form of connection, mainly related to kinky stuff but which can also extend outside.

Why choosing me and not another one in 1000 (what can I give you, kinkly and non)

I am a pretty deep person (once I open up), when I want I can listen people and support them, I can give people original insights, I can make good inside jokes once we know each other.

Kinkly, as a Dom, I have a good immagination and I can create nice scenarios (sometimes I like to see myself as a sort of "movie director"), once I know you I can put myself in your shoes and calibrate my tasks and style on you, on the moment and on your sensations. As an attitude, I think I can give you a cool mix of being caring and being a meanie.

As a sub instead I like to be a good boy and behave. I have so much to learn so if you take the lead I will follow. During play time, if properly teased I can become a needy whore begging for whatever you want to give to me.

If you guess we could click, I wait for a your Dm here on Reddit (I may not answer immediately because of time zones, but for sure in a day you will get an answer). I appreciate a brief introduction of who you are (if not already written in your profile). See you soon!

Please, if you read all, write "papaya" somewhere in your message. Thanks :)