If you're like me, maybe you're a bit jaded. It sounds like an achievement goal - a small sense of connection, a few laughs, a degree of mutual respect, a place to start. Then the fakes and the scams and the catfishers and those mostly guys that hide behind the anonymity of a screen and think it's okay to be hateful suck the oxygen out of the room. Frustrating... Exhausting...

So, why write this? Why take the time to read it...?

I'm sane. Genuine. Honest and direct, no games. Respectful. Responsibly self-employed, with both kids and pets that haven't starved on me just yet. Divorced, since that's usually the next question. I can hold a semi-intelligent, articulate conversation, using correct punctuation (maybe too many commas). No clothes hanging on the stationary bike, I likely won't collapse going up a flight of stairs or anything. Jokes usually get a laugh, no burning desire to get to know a stranger by sending a picture of my penis...

I have my own quirks and flaws, a dad bod that I'm working on (6'1", 205-ish) less hair than the ponytail days back in university. But, I hear when I listen, I won't tell you how to think, I'm confident enough not to pressure (or to creepily pursue if things don't work out).

I think I'm a decent guy. Hello.

I'm also an experienced Dom. For years, in both relationships and pure dynamics, was even a paid Dom for a bit back in the Craigslist days. No experience required, I'm comfortable exploring with someone new and enjoy discussing the theory behind the actions. No age preference though the majority of my partners have been younger. Is this aspect of my sexuality an absolute requirement? No, but it is there to be explored for someone that might be inclined.

Dominant or vanilla, it's not a power trip for me - I think there are a lot of "Dom's" here that just dictate without understanding what or why someone is looking for the safety of control. I believe in strong communication, tailoring the experience to the specific curiosities of my Submissive, soft or sadistic, lifestyle or just dipping your foot into the pool. I've been able to explore a very wide range of kinks because I try to understand your path vs forcing one upon you. Control must be given, not taken from you.

If you've made it this far, thank you for reading - like I said up front, you didn't have to. Feel free to reach out if you think we might have something to discuss, in any form. If not, I hope you find what you're looking for.