A warning in advance: This will probably be a fairly long post (also kinda describing me well) - so sit down and make yourself comfortable!

Catchy (or not) titles aside - hello! I'm a 30 year old male Dom from Denmark. After coming out a long vanilla relationship a few years back, I have now come to a state where I feel both ready and curious to see what is out there again. I've lurked around for a bit, but decided that it now was time to throw my own hat into the ring.

What I'm seeking

A long term relationship, ideally with someone who can fill out both the roles of a significant other and sub at the same time. I would like the dynamic to be a 24/7 one, within reason of course, but at least in a sense where both parties acknowledge it and the imbalance of power, in lack of better words. Allowing both for dominance and affection to be displayed without seeming or feeling "off". Getting out of the aforementioned relationship made it very clear to me, how I don't really see myself being in something long term without both being present again. Depending on your location, I would expect it to start out as long distance and online, but would want it to move to something in person within a reasonable time frame.

I do very much have the desire to form a family in the future, after having found the right one to settle with, of course. This is not to put any pressure from day 1, 10 or 1000, but I would rather want to play with open cards.

Both dynamic and relationship is of course not something, I would expect to just happen from one day to another, and will rather want it to be built up and earned over time. It is absolutely the dream to find that someone you one moment can slap across the face and the next be cuddled up on the couch with - to paint a picture.

I hope to find someone, where writing these novels of messages to one another both come natural and are enjoyed and encouraged. That someone, who you can truly feel 'you' with - no masks, walls or the like needed. Where both parties (over time, of course) feel comfortable enough to both show weakness and whatever "ugly" sides there may be. And where a short period of silence together isn't as scary as it can seem in many cases. And where we can both laugh at and with one another - some teasing has never hurt anyone.

Who am I?

• 30, 181 cm (~5'11") and a bit on the larger side.
• Caucasian, blue eyes
• Short/medium brown hair and boxed beard.
• Single (surprise!).
• Non-smoker, drinking occasionally.
• Big nerd - working as a programmer, and spending a great amount of spare time on gaming and smaller personal programming projects.
• Aside from the computer, I am into 3D printing and football (soccer). I also enjoy longer walks, exploring the area while getting some fresh air can really do wonders!
• Big animal lover, though not currently a pet owner - am considering getting a dog or a cat in the nearest future.
• I am introverted and somewhat insecure. I also would label myself as warm, humour filled, joyful, caring and an inkling of clingy with the right people.
• Home body, who prefer a cosy board game night with friends, rather than a night out clubbing.
• I love travelling, and love exploring and experiencing foreign places and cultures. I do tend to be more than ready to go home again at the end of the vacation though, haha.
• For those who are interested in the 16 personalities test, I am an ISFJ.
• Despite my age, and having been into BDSM for around a decade, I'm quite inexperienced in person.

Kink-related

Below are some brief examples of interests and likes. Plenty have likely been forgotten, but it can hopefully give you an idea about me. Please note that these are "just" some interests, and shouldn't as such be considered a check list needed to be filled out. I also won't go too in depth, as I'm thinking we can discuss that further down the line. The most important to me, is that both parties enjoy it all and are comfortable with it. I'm also open for trying most things.

• Sadism - Greatly into pain, both seeing it be applied, the reaction from the sub and the result from it after.
• Degradation and humiliation - Can be anything from name calling, foot worship to even water sports - very open.
• Deepthroating
• Overall control/ownership - To what extent is of course up to what we'd figure out together. But both parties feeling that increase/lack of control is just.. wonderful.
• Asphyxiation
• Restraints
• Collaring
• Care - Not directly linked, but found it an important one to mentioned as well. I don't consider myself a Daddy or the like, but still care immensely and do go out of my way, when with someone.

You

• Fitting with the points above.
• Near my age.
• Ideally located in Europe. Up for travelling to meet up, and relocate in the future.
• Non-smoker.
• Equally dorky, kind and positive to be around.

If you made it this far, then thank you for proof reading my autobiography! All jokes aside, thank you for taking the time. If the rough introduction to 'me' has caught your interest, then please let me hear from you. Have a wonderful time!