To get things started, I am a 30 year old guy living in Iowa, but I am more than open to long distance with the possibility of meeting in person/moving. I am not looking for strictly online, I am looking for a real full relationship that happens to involve kink. I'm into comics, movies, video games, true crime and more. I've slowly started getting back into cooking, reading and drawing as well. All that being said, I still absolutely love being outdoors. Physically, I am 6'1 and I am a bigger guy who is losing weight, I’m down about 30 pounds right now. I am still very much body confident and comfortable in my own skin, still active and still take care of myself. I have fairly long hair, 9 tattoos and some piercings. I currently work as a barista, with plans to either move into management or go back to school.

I'm switch, but I lean more dominant. My dom side is a soft dom/daddy dom. I’m much more likely to praise you than to degrade you. Some kinks include praise, DDLG, orgasm control/denial/forced, and marking. These are all of course negotiable, my only hard limits are most of the usual ones such as anything too painful, illegal, unethical, and scat. I love honorifics and nicknames, when that point is reached and the trust is built. I have been in the lifestyle the better part of 5 years, largely stemming from 2 long term relationships that also happened to involve kink.

As I mentioned, I am switch, and while I lean dominant, dommes are free to message me as well. My submissive side is into the soft domme, mommy domme type. I can border on being a little when I’m submissive, but I am still exploring exactly what that means to me. I mostly just want to be a good boy who is there to be played with. Kinks are mostly the same, with a few added things like pegging and body worship (more so specific parts of the body, but that can be discussed). A hard limit for me as a sub is chastity, I know it is not for me and I will not move on that.

I am looking ideally for someone between mid 20s to mid 30s, as I am turning 31 myself in April. I like someone who would hopefully have somewhat similar interests as me in both vanilla and kinky life. As comfortable going out as we would be just staying in and being together. Someone who has the same thoughts and beliefs as me, because I stand by my beliefs very strongly. Honestly, I do have some trust issues so please be kind and patient, and know that it is not at all personal. I have looks and styles I prefer above others, as we all do, but that does not really matter in the end. Mutual attraction is always important, but I believe in knowing and loving someone for who they are. If any of this sounds good, please feel free to message me. Tell me your favorite color so I know you've read this whole thing, please. Mine is purple. (: