Well hello there. Fair warning... this is gonna be a long one, but you got this.

TL;DR: I'm an experienced, creative, and active Dom looking for a sub who is passionate about this lifestyle, and yearns to give into/be challenged by her Dom for a rewarding kinky relationship.

Physically - I'm 34, single, white/hispanic, dark brown hair and hazel eyes, (6'3~250 lbs), non-smoker, clean/DDF. Originally from NY and have recently ended up in south jersey.

A little about me :

Personality - I'm a mixture of passion, support, and just the right amount of deviancy. I've been described as playful, sadistic, caring, communicative, honest, creative, mature, witty, curious, easy to talk to, driven, patient, open-minded, and trustworthy. My love languages tend to be quality time and physical touch.

Interests - Lately I've been a bit of a homebody. I've got a pretty eclectic assortment of interests, including: TV/film/Anime (almost any genre), music (wait till you see how diverse my taste is), games (tabletop video trivia), reading/writing, health (mental physical), and machine learning. Hopefully we share a few interests already.

Daily life - I'm goal-oriented and a bit of a problem solver. I love to juggle multiple projects at once (both professionally and hobbies). I'm in the middle of a career change in which I can both put my creativity to work, as well as live much more comfortably in this ever growing wildly expensive world. I consider D/s to be an essential part of my romantic relationship, not just something for the bedroom (more on that below). I will always make time for my partner and expect the same in return.

Who and what I'm looking for :

Submission and D/s are not mutually exclusive from having agency in life. In fact, they're complimentary. I'm looking for someone who considers herself passionate and driven, but also dreams of relinquishing control in the right hands. Someone craving to be with a trusted partner who will challenge her, and help her succeed through the care, safety, structure, pleasure, discipline of a holistic D/s dynamic. This lifestyle is meant to make us be the best version of ourselves for each other.

My ideal partner brings similar qualities to the table. She loves to explore, learn, and try new things. She is active/takes care of her physical health, she is communicative, empathetic, giving, loyal, honest, kinky, emotionally available, and serious about finding a Dom. She is also communicative, asks questions when she has them, and does not make assumptions.

I'm open to a few s-type identities (sub, pet, and slave).

My only dealbreakers in a partner are: nicotine/cigarette smoker, any STIs/STDs, and someone who isn't open to something long term.

Location - South Jersey, close to atlantic city.. I mainly moved out here to help take care of family for the summer, however I'm open to moving afterwards. Otherwise staying in NJ wouldn't be so bad either. I'm fairly open minded in this case.

The kinky stuff :

Experience - Whether this is your first or tenth rodeo, I'm welcoming of all as I've been in the lifestyle for the past 17 years. In that time, you come to understand that whether a sub is experienced or not, there will be times things come easy to you, and times things come more difficult. Whether you struggle or not, my job will always be to make sure you learn and grow to succeed. I've had D/s relationships to different degrees which have led me to narrow down what I need and look for, hence this post. I'm an open book and always happy to answer anything on your mind. If you're curious and inquisitive, we're probably a perfect match already! Ask any question you'd like and I'll be happy to share.

D/s dynamic - One constant that I'm big on is communication and honesty. Whether you like the answer or not, I will not lie to you as I expect the same in return. Breaking trust in this way removes me from any type of relationship I may have with that person. My partner is a priority for me, just as I want to be for her. That means I would like to chat regularly and spend time together since despite being involved in the lifestyle, this is still a relationship. I'm also a believer in structure and rules beyond the bedroom. This isn't just "for fun", as I consider this a lifestyle. That being said, each dynamic is unique so it's not a one-size-fits-all. Much more to discuss together.

My hard limits - Scat

My kinks - Impact play, bondage (rope/chains/cuffs/tape), orgasm control/edging, humiliation/degradation, Exhibitionism, training/tasks/protocols, among many others...

Do you recognize yourself in all this and think we could be compatible? Don't hesitate to message me! I know it can be intimidating to message a stranger online, but take that first step, and I'll be sure to take lead from there.